Aries Man and Sagittarius Woman Compatibility
and then Peter gripped her and began to draw her
toward the window.
“Let me go!” she ordered him Of course she was
very pleased to be asked.
A Sagittarian girl who’s attracted to an Aries man is only doing what comes naturally. She admires courage, craves excitement, likes to have fun – and the Ram is certainly not a stick-in-the-mud. True he’s somewhat bossy, and inclined to insist on getting his own way. But he’s eternally a sentimental romanticist, and that’s what she’s looking for, even though this girl may not recognize her own goal until someone points it out to her. Once she is made to realize it, however, she’ll gather a goodly number of scars from looking for it in all the wrong places and ways. But she’ll cover them, often with the mask of the clown. Sag always tells a joke when Jupiter’s idealism has been struck. It’s a defense mechanism. This woman desperately needs romance, because only romance can heal her instinctive cynicism. She was born somewhat skeptical, and her excursions into love frequently do nothing to soften it, but instead, only sharpen it -and her wit.
Not being overly sensitive (unless his Moon is in a Water Sign, or his birth chart contains an extremely well-aspected Neptune), the average Aries man isn’t greatly perceptive when it comes to analyzing human nature. He more or less takes people as he finds them and may therefore find her need for romance difficult to conceive when she comes on to him like a comic Valentine, with a cynical laugh, lugging a copy of Kate Millett’s Sexual Revolution, and defying him to possess her. Or when she wears one of her other Sagittarian theatrical masks that disguise her as a wacky, wriggling puppy – or as a shy, withdrawn spinster.
In her heart, the Sagittarian girl longs for an intelligent, honest man, who will take her into his warm arms and protect her forever – from herself. Before he can do that, the Ram will have to gently remove her greasepaint, and tell her firmly that the musical comedy is over. She’ll protest, because she loves the theatre and she also shares Cinderella’s fear of the midnight curfew, when her coach turns into a pumpkin. Nevertheless, it must be done. A girl Archer is much easier to handle when she’s sitting in a pumpkin, barefoot and humble, than when she’s flying around at the ball, flirting and flapping her defiance at a man. Once she’s been properly bent into submission (a task about as easy as trying to pass a race horse while riding a turtle), she can be the sweetest woman in the world. But the Aries man will need a quick turtle to catch the Sagittarius mare.
He can comfort himself with the thought that this girl is not only slightly clumsy in a physical sense (despite her graceful walk and bearing) – she’s also a little clumsy emotionally. Sooner or later, she’ll stumble. Then he can pick her up in his warm, understanding arms, plunk her down in that pumpkin, and demonstrate the facts of life to her – the facts of life being that he is a man and she is a woman. (Sag is a masculine sign, you know.) He could find this even more of a challenge than taming the Aries female, because a girl Archer, being half horse, can run faster than a Ram. If he can convince her that she can trust him to love her completely (unlike those other phony hypocrites who broke her heart), she’ll reward him with freedom, stimulating conversation, devoted friendship, affection, humor, warmth and generosity. All that is surely worth a little trouble at the starting gate.
In the beginning, the Ram will be outraged by her blunt speech and lack of consideration for his tender male ego. Neither will he be happy with her sheer luck in winning all the Monopoly games by intuitively grabbing up Boardwalk and Park Place, and in general, making him look foolish in front of his friends with her frankness. Aries men are determined to retain their masculine superiority, independence and personal freedom at any cost. If he has trouble communicating this to her, he might try a little history. “Baby, do you know who wrote the greatest statement of freedom the world has ever known – the Declaration of Independence? A male Ram, named Tom Jefferson. Who else could have authored such a glorious example of independence, but an Aries?” It might impress her.
Of course, there are other things that same history lesson might teach her too, like the absence of humility in the Mars nature. Arian Thomas Jefferson also wrote his own epitaph, a typical example of Aries modesty: “Here lies Thomas Jefferson, Author of the Declaration of Independence, Author of the Statute of Virginia for Religious Liberty, and Founder of the University of Virginia.” He didn’t have to mention that he was President. That was already taken care of elsewhere on his marker, by tradition. So Tom could afford the selfeffacing gesture of excluding it from the tribute to his accomplishments which he composed himself. Like all Rams, Thomas Jefferson was a radical, an innovator of new ideas, a fiery lover of independence – and most certainly not bashful.
But why should he have been? After all, he did pioneer, develop and manifest all those things, with his Mars enthusiasm and courage. Why should he hide his light behind a bushel of false humility? In the area of ego, the Aries man and his Sagittarian woman won’t have much tension. Well, maybe a little, but not much. As a Cardinal sign, he can’t help his instincts to lead. As a Mutable sign, she’s not consumed with the ego or personality. She’d rather keep it tucked out of sight if it interferes with her traveling around in her mind, or geographically. Mutable signs are not unduly ego-driven. (The other two Mutables are Pisces and Virgo, and these people are hardly pushy egotists.) Of the three Mutables, Sag is perhaps the most conscious of the self, and the “self-consciousness” of the Archer is seldom overdone
The term “self-conscious” is confusing and contradictory. One thinks of it as indicating humility or embarrassment – or a degree of introversion. Isn’t this the image conjured for you when a person is described as “self-conscious”? Oddly, we Americans have twisted the true meaning, which is, of course, “conscious-of-the-self’ – and that certainly has naught to do with humility, introversion or any of those submerging-of-the-ego patterns. Anyway, whatever, the girl Centaur is a few degrees more self-conscious than her Pisces and Virgo mutable sisters, yet considerably less so than the male Ram.
Not all, but by far the largest majority of Sagittarian women prefer male friends to female friends, so the jealous Ram will have lots of opportunities to remind himself that she’s only being friendly, cheerful and gregarious, not unfaithful. She’s more than a little inclined toward jealousy herself when goaded, but not nearly so much as he. Whatever number of mean little green monsters do hide in the background of her aura won’t have many chances to appear, because her Aries lover or husband also prefers the company of men. Isn’t that
That’s another thing. This girl is lucky. Somehow, a great many of her worst goofs turn out right side up, under the benevolent and fortunate influence of her ruler, Jupiter, who blessed her at birth like a faerie godfather (an interesting term) with the shining qualities of faith and optimism, which, when combined, are a mighty powerful force for sheer “luck,” which isn’t luck at all, only the result of the law of magnetism. One attracts what one images – and she images happiness a great deal of the time.
Despite her general air of loose or unconventional social behavior, remember that Jupiter rules spiritual insight and prophetic essence of all religion. This girl possesses an inner innocence and a touching faith in people (at least she did when she was younger) that often place her in awkward positions, and make it seem she’s more flirtatious than she really is. It all begins so innocently.
ARIES: You spent the entire night in Mr. Cromwell’s town house because he’s your boss, and he needed you? I’ll just bet he needed you, that sneaky old goat. As for you, you have the morals of an alley cat. (Rams are not noted for their care in choosing words when the Mars temper is exploding.)
SAG: His dog was due to have puppies, and he was going to let her have them
all by herself. Someone had to help the poor thing.
ARIES: A dirty old man who seduces his secretary into sleeping with him is not a
SAG: I meant the dog. Mr. Cromwell is a creep. He went to bed, and I had to deliver the puppies all by myself in the kitchen. One of them was born dead. It was so sad. I cried all the way home in the taxi.
ARIES: You cried all… so that’s why your makeup is smeared. Darling, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize .. .
SAG: YOU mean you didn’t trust me. Don’t try to apologize. You called me an alley cat. That’s an obvious indication of your psychotic hatred for animals, using a poor cat to symbolize a prostitute – which you think I am. Just leave – I never want to see you again!
A few scenes like that, changing names, places and situations, and the Ram will learn, hopefully before he’s lost her, that unfounded jealousy is something she won’t stand for, because it implies she’s dishonest, and Sagittarians all have a thing about truth and integrity that amounts to a regular neurosis with some of them. Just ask their psychiatrists. If she had submitted to Mr. Cromwell’s seductions, she would probably have told Aries quite frankly, leaving out none
of the lurid details.
Barring such a forthright confession, the Ram should have faith in her. True, Sagittarian women, like Gemini and Pisces women, percentage-wise, are tempted more often into experiments in sexual promiscuity or multiple affairs than their other Sun Sign sisters, because they are Mutable, and also dual in nature – but the Archer is not sneaky. Whatever the Aries man may accuse her of, it should not be deception. This woman will always be true to herself, and to the man she loves, until she falls out of love with him – or until he unfairly
doubts her. Even then, she’s more apt to break off their relationship angrily and emotionally than to be unfaithful simply to punish him. (Unless she has a Scorpio Moon Sign or Ascendent.) Even those girl Archers who have a history of casually changing sexual partners will normally indulge in only one affair at a time, and such behavior is usually triggered by a series of severe romantic disillusionments.
Both Sag and Aries are equally guilty of flashes of conceit, bossiness and recklessness, which they both consider to be virtues. They’re also both hampered by a contempt for caution, prudence and patience, which they both consider to be vices.
Once they’ve discovered that compromise is the best way to solve their disagreements and end their quarrels, they can achieve a kind of mental and emotional harmony, not to mention physical harmony, that couples who don’t gamble for such high stakes (and who are not guided by the graced-with-mutual-sympathy 5-9 vibration) could ever hope to reach. Their sexual rapport should be both stimulating and quieting .. . warm, imaginative .. . and full of shooting stars. As long as she remembers that “silence is golden” during their lovemaking and refrains from puncturing his passion at a strategic point with one of her Sagittarian verbal arrows. Intimate moments are not the ideal time for cheerful chatter or candid observations. Otherwise, the way these two express and share the sexual side of their love can be deeply satisfying for both of them. Neither of these two Sun Signs is stingy by nature, so money shouldn’t create many problems between them, except perhaps where and how to get it, after they’ve spent it all. If it comes to a race to see who’s more extravagant, you can bet on the Ram, since the typical or average Archer is normally a few (short) lengths behind Sag in scattering lettuce around carelessly. Her general disposition may be a degree or so calmer than his too, but you can’t really depend on this, unless she has a Pisces or Taurus Ascendent or Moon Sign, so he’d best not think it will save him when he tries to boss her around, or insult her cooking or housekeeping, neither of which are the average girl Archer’s strong points.
The important thing for the Aries man to realize is that this girl is as much of an idealist about love and Life as he is – perhaps even more so. Her popularity and her friendly, open manner with men doesn’t change the quality of her basic integrity. Does his fondness for innocent and harmless feminine admiration mean infidelity on his part? No, it doesn’t. Seldom, if ever. Like her, he’ll remain faithful to love until love is no longer there, and even then will tend more to confession than to secrecy. But he might consider the fact that she has her fears too. Very much like his own. As long as he’s honest with her, this girl will love him with her whole heart, run bravely alongside him wherever he wants to go. She may lose her temper and say things she doesn’t mean – but the moment she knows he’s really hurt, she’ll rush to his side to bind up his wounds, whether they’re physical or emotional, with an unexpected tenderness and gentleness. Then the flames of their Fire Element natures will ignite all over again, just like the first time.
The only thing he needs to remember is to be honest with her always keep the make-believe and excitement alive in their relationship – and not peak rashly, in anger. Exactly the same things she needs to remember about him. These two are so much alike. Proud. Brave. Generous. Impulsive. Passionate. Independent. Idealistic. And very, very vulnerable to coldness and rejection .. . especially from each other. Once they’ve permanently conquered their mutual unintentional selfishness, nothing can separate them. The strength of their love is unconquerable. Mars and Jupiter are a formidable combination.