Aries Woman and Aquarius Man Compatibility
Then he nearly cried; but it struck him how indignant she
would be if he laughed instead. So he laughed a haughty
laugh, and fell asleep in the middle of it.
These two could have a glorious time together, if the Aries girl could only get one thing into her head. When an Aquarian man laughs, it’s because he feels very sad. When he cries, it’s because he feels very happy.
Once she catches on to this important game he plays, she’ll have an easier time of it with all his other tricks. I’m referring to the tricks the Water Bearer uses to keep a girl from guessing he cares for her. Also the tricks he uses after she’s already guessed, and he doesn’t want her to find out how deeply he cares. And don’t leave out the tricks he uses when he knows he’s helplessly in love, but still trying to convince himself he can switch it back to friendship again, before it’s too late. If you like games, this man is more fun that a stack of crossword puzzles and a trunkful of poker chips. An Aries girl likes games. But there’s a small catch here. She only likes games when the other player lets her win all the time.
The Aquarian male has no patience with girl Rams who play by those rules. He’s not going to give her any handicaps or free rolls of the dice just because she cries a few angry tears. Since she’s so independent and aggressive, for a girl, he’ll probably say, “Listen, buddy (Aquarians call everyone buddy), if you’re so sensitive, how come I saw you marching in that Women’s Lib parade last week? You females who demand equal rights had better be ready to take them all on, like moving furniture, fixing the plumbing, changing tires – and fighting right alongside the men in a war.”
He’s wrong. She only pushed her way into that parade because she couldn’t resist the excitement of the drumbeats. After all, Rams are idealists, who sometimes start cheering for a cause before they know what it’s all about. She’s not likely to be a card-carrying member of any Women’s Lib group. An Aries girl? She was born liberated – and she has no intention of giving up her feminine privileges, just to prove she’s equal, when she already knows she’s superior!
It’s just that she likes to knock around the issues now and then, to keep her mind sharp. Like, she’ll say, “Your argument that equal rights mean women have to wear uniforms, grab machine guns, and start killing people is deceptive and unrealistic. If women ran this country, there wouldn’t be any more war. It’s the men who are so big on physical violence, fighting, and war – not women.”
AQUARIUS: Is that right? Drop into Macy’s basement some morning when they’re having a sale. I know a guy who runs the Red Cross bandage concession there every Saturday. It would turn General Patton’s hair white in five minutes. Talk about cold-blooded atrocities. You women and your tears. What a put-on!
Sooner or later, she’s going to complain that he’s aloof and detached – or downright cruel and sadistic. (It amounts to the same thing to Aries. In her eyes, aloof is a synonym for cruel, detached a synonym for sadistic.) It’s simply his admirable, yet admittedly annoying, breadth of vision that isolates him from the petty, personal emotions of individuals, while he’s promoting the high ideals of brotherhood and sisterhood. An Aquarian is more interested in a permanent cure for the common cold than in handing you a Kleenex when you’re sneezing. He’s more concerned about the medical problems of geriatrics and aging than in helping individual little old ladies across the street. Uranus keeps his heart and mind directed toward the alleviation of all unhappiness and evil in the world on some bright tomorrow. There’s not much sympathy left over for the personal distress close to him today.
This man is basically good-natured and kind, make no mistake about that. And his aims are noble. However, when dealing with Water Bearers, you should always remember Robespierre (who had an Aquarian Ascendent). His moral principles and his plans for the regeneration of France were undoubtedly most sincere and idealistic. But he overlooked the fact that France was a country populated by human beings with feelings, and in his crusading zeal, he chopped off quite a few heads – literally.
The Aquarian tries to be optimistic and sympathetic to his friends in trouble … . and to the Aries girl (who needs his broad shoulder to weep on after he’s hurt her). But his sympathy too often consists of rather vague generalities. With his broader Uranus vision, the Aquarian male instinctively understands the deeper significance of sorrow. He knows that only through suffering can the soul be perfected – and he hates to interfere with the workings of Fate. Who is he to throw a monkey wrench into Destiny’s plan? For all he knows, Destiny is a synonym for God. (You can see their synonym definitions also differ slightly.)
All right, so he can be kind and gentle, tender, sweet and funny, when it suits him. But he’s still cold and heartless when he’s seen through the sentimental eyes of the more sensitive, open-hearted Aries girl. The difference in their natures may be occasionally adjusted through compromise, but never completely overcome.
He has hundreds, maybe even thousands, of friends. With a crowd like that, she is obviously not going to be wild about each one of them. (She’s not an Aquarian – he is.) The more time he spends with them – away from her – the more chances she’ll have to be jealous. Since jealousy is the Aries girl’s romantic Achilles’ heel, their relationship will have a better chance if she lets him bring his friends home than if she forces him to meet them out in the park, beside the squirrel cage. There’s nothing she can do to erase his “thing” about friendship. He’s a humanitarian. He enjoys people. She’ll simply have to face it.
The thing to do is forget about all his virtues – like vision, originality, foresight, friendliness, and humanitarianism – and concentrate on his vices. He has lots of those. (I know that sounds like strange advice, but we’re dealing with an Aquarian, which means that everything you’ve ever learned must be reversed, and read in a mirror backward.) It’s not his virtues then, but his vices that can keep them together. Let’s run over a few of them.
He’s unpredictable. She’ll have to admit that’s an exciting quality to Aries. It beckons to her Mars love of challenge. He’s also eccentric, weird, unconventional, and odd. Beautiful. If there’s anything this girl would find a real drag, it’s an uptight man stuck in a conservative groove. He hears strange music, and he follows a wild and distant drummer (all Rams adore parades). Oh, wow! Well, what do you know – a parade! If she’s a good girl, he’ll let her hold his hand and skip along beside him. As for the wild and distant drummer he follows, to Aries a drumbeat is a drumbeat. Who cares? Any kind of percussion makes her pulses pound, sends her heart into throbbing spasms of hope and glory-spangled banners of excitement.
Her pounding pulses may slow down a bit, however, when it comes to reaching sexual fulfillment with this man. In the beginning, the Aries girl’s more direct, flaming Mars drive may whiz right over the head of her Aquarian lover. What happened to him? He was here just a minute ago. Oh, there he is. She’ll have to go back and pick him up. He’s still sitting there, scratching his left ear, and trying to analyze the first kiss. You mean there’s more? Well, that certainly is interesting.
He’s willing to be educated, and to let her teach him. Whether or not he ever graduates is another question altogether. No, she hasn’t stumbled upon a male virgin. It’s possible, of course, but the probable reason for his awe and wonder is that, to the typical Aquarian, each new experience of life is exactly like the first one – to be tasted, savored, then either treasured or discarded. His approach to romance is no different. Because the attraction of Aries and Aquarius is essentially one of emotional appeal and intellectual curiosity, their sexual mating may be unpredictable. It’s the same old problem again. His apparent detachment – and her impatience with anything short of instant gratification. Yet, if the Sun-Moon relationship between their horoscopes is harmonious (and often, even if it isn’t), there’s a good possibility that practice will make
perfect between them in the physical expression of love. Her Arian aura of freshness and lack of guile – her basic honesty about sexual love – will strongly appeal to him and move him to an unaccustomed tenderness. But she’ll always have to retain the ideal image and innocence of the first seduction. For that , so will he.
A lot of their problems will be caused by the fact that she is Cardinal, therefore likes to lead – and he is Fixed, therefore refuses to follow. Also, they were both born under a masculine Sun Sign, and in addition, each is ruled by a masculine planet – both of them powerful, unpredictable planets. Mars and Uranus are not marshmallows. They are equally explosive and forceful, like the lovers or mates they rule, and whose actions they guide. Some of the edges can be smoothed away from these rough spots by the 3-11 vibration of easy friendship and communication between them. And there are other ways astrology can lead the way to happiness for the girl Ram and her Water Bearer (also for the Water Bearer and his girl Ram – since the masculine charisma of ownership and possession works both ways with these two).
Esoteric free-thought association, for all of its mystical quality, can be helpful in a surprisingly practical way. They should try meditating together on the deeper layers of the meaning of their 3-11 Sun Sign Pattern. In astrology, it’s called a sextile relationship. When you think of the word “sextile,” a picture arises of snowflakes and stars, since the astrological symbol for the sextile resembles both. It looks like this: and what could be a lovelier image than snowflakes and stars?
A snowflake is totally unique and original in its design – and so is the Aquarian man. No two snowflakes are alike, and this man also .. . is like no other on Earth. As for stars, they’re the glittering diamonds in the sky children wish on (and all those who believe) which should remind him of her. For the Aries girl’s heart will ever be the heart of a child, believing in magic and miracles .. . spring and sunrise, as naive and trusting… as excited by every new wonder and thrill of discovery .. . as open and friendly as a child .. . and every bit as vulnerable, beneath all her surface bravado and outward independence.
They’ll be surprised how this small exercise in meditation will lift them back to joy and laughter from the shadows of fear and rejection, jealousy and anger. If everytime she sees a snowflake, she thinks of his uniqueness .. . and everytime he sees a star, he thinks of her childlike innocence of intent… the tension between them will melt into understanding, as a snowflake melts .. . and sparkle with new promise, as a star shines.
Snowflakes and stars can be a magic mantra for all 3-11 influenced lovers, but especially for this man and woman. Palling snowflakes and shooting stars can be the private love code between them.
Sometimes, these two Sun Signs remind you of the ancient fable, slightly distorted. A magic purple leprechaun comes along to grant the Aries girl and her Aquarian man three wishes. In typical daffy, Uranian fashion, he wishes for a blueberry pudding. Instead of leaving well enough alone and asking for her own heart’s desire, the Ram is so insulted and angered by her lover’s flippant wish that she blurts out: “I wish you had that silly pudding stuck on your nose!” And so naturally they have to sacrifice their third and last wish to get the pudding off his face.
It’s sad, when two people who love each other have used up all their wishes. Still, something may be left of yesterday to use as a bridge into tomorrow. What about all those crazy dreams, and .. . wait! Listen! Isn’t that the crash of a wild, off-beat drum in the distance? It is. They both heard it. Never mind the quarrel. He grabs her hand tightly, and off they go to catch up with the parade together (with the Ram in the lead, of course). Now, if she can only keep him from flirting with the lady elephants .. . and he can only keep her from weeping over the clowns.
Well, what do you know? It’s snowing! And the stars have come out.