Cancer Man and Pisces Woman Compatibility
As they sat thus, something brushed against Peter, as light
as a kiss, and stayed there, as if saying timidly, “Can I be
of any use?”
She liked his tears so much that she put out her beautiful
finger and let them run over it.
The telepathic connection between all lovers and mates who are guided by the 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern vibration is never less than powerful – but the ESP cord that flashes between a man and woman influenced by the 5-9 vibes, who were also both born under Water Signs, is nothing short of miraculous. When they feel the mutual tug during their good times, it’s a wonderful, enchanted blessing. However, during their bad times, when they’ve separated temporarily (5-9 couples very seldom separate permanently, unless there are severe afflictions between their natal charts)…. during these bleak periods, the tug on the cord can seem more like a curse than a blessing.
It tortures them with memories, and worst of all, it allows each to know, with amazing accuracy, pretty much what the other is doing and thinking. And while what the other one is thinking is nearly always favorable – what the other one is doing may be considerably upsetting to the one receiving the telepathic message – because when these two quarrel, each tries to show the missing half that he (or she) couldn’t care less. Since Cancer and Pisces are quite good at make-believe, both of them equally talented thespians, the acts and plays they stage for one another’s benefit can be dreadfully disturbing. Especially when you add the fact that the girl Fish and her gentle Crab both have exceptional imaginations. Her Neptunian and his Lunar imaginative tendency sometimes shades what originally were true messages between them with deceptive tones, causing unnecessary heartache.
Every Cancerian male enjoys (sometimes even demands) being babied. To be cherished as Mama cherished him (or as Mama should have, whichever). It’s really quite simple. If he was raised to pick up his socks, handle his own emergencies maturely, clean up his own dishes, and in general, be emotionally and otherwise independent, all the while being affectionately loved – then, when it comes to the woman who loves or marries him, he’ll expect her to be affectionate and loyal, in return for which he’ll bear his own share of household duties, as well as his share of the blame for the emotional upsets and tensions that always occur, from time to time, within any close relationship, whether it’s between parent and child, lovers, or married partners. And the two of them will live, on the whole, happily ever after, as Hans Christian Andersen promised.
However, if he was spoiled as a child by “Mama,” he’ll fully expect the woman he loves as an adult to spoil him also. Love him affectionately and loyally, yes – but also pick up his socks for him, not ask him to share in household chores, cook for him, slave for him, adore and worship him – tell him he’s right, even when he’s wrong, defend him against his enemies, support him emotionally – and never ask him to bear the burden of responsibility for any disagreements they may have.
Fortunately, the Pisces girl is super-equipped for that sort of special tender, loving care, and for the most part, she’ll succeed, although it might mean submerging her own personality and life style more than she should. Her dreams may take second place to his, and she’ll have to be the one to make most of the advances toward reconciliation after a quarrrel, the one to make the first attempt to smooth over all misunderstandings. He’ll weep on her shoulder far more often than she’ll be able to weep on his when she’s insecure and troubled. With her beautiful humility, sympathetic heart and genuine need to bring happiness to others, her basic unselfishness, it works out rather nicely… if she gradually teaches him, very gently, to be a little more emotionally mature and treat her as a person who has feelings and occasionally needs understanding too. Should she neglect to thus gradually teach and train him to comprehend her own personal, individual needs, she’s in the same kind of trouble his mother found herself in, once she awoke to the truth of the situation. It’s easy for a Neptune lady to cross over the very thin line between humility and masochism, between submission and martyrdom.
Then there’s the other kind of Crab, the Cancerian man who was honestly rejected in some way as a small crablet. Perhaps he was orphaned or adopted, or if not, then perhaps his parents were too busy to give him the attention every Cancerian youngster needs. Maybe his mother was the emotionally cold type, and he cried himself to sleep a lot, starved for affection of the tangible sort, like bedtime stories, bear hugs and goodnight kisses on his nose. Maybe he grew up in poverty, his dreams filled every night with the voices of adults worried about money, how to make ends meet, making him feel subconsciously guilty for being an extra expense to them, simply by being, by existing – by having been born at all.
If this is the childhood history of the Cancer man she loves, the Pisces woman has a fair-sized task on her hands. She’ll have to be his psychologist, his psychiatrist, his best friend, his mother and father (both), not to mention his mistress and his lovely image of womanhood on a pedestal. A pure angel who doesn’t hate him or turn away from him when he’s behaving like a pure devil. In brief, she’ll have to heal all the old wounds of yesterday, with continual patience and compassion, until the magic of love at last works its mysterious alchemy .. . and one day he awakens to the discovery that he has slowly but surely gained a permanent self-confidence and faith in himself. Only then can he love her as unselfishly as she loves him. It’s an inflexible law of human nature that you must first really like and respect yourself before you can truly love another.
Thanks to the mysterious 5-9 vibration, the girl Fish won’t panic when she recognizes either of the last two of these three possible types of Cancerian male as the man she loves. Figuring out the complications of human relationships is something she was born to do with more ease than most people. Accepting problems, whether major or minor, and deciding how to patiently and calmly deal with them is another of her Neptune talents. Refusing to allow difficulties to upset her unduly, taking things in stride, is an attitude she adopts effortlessly, because of her inner tranquility and serenity – her willingness to allow a higher intelligence than her own to guide the final result of all her hopes and dreams. She’ll do what she can to overcome obstacles on her path. What more can anyone do? To continue to worry about something after you’ve already applied your best effort is, to her, wasted energy. Pisceans are not noted for spinning their wheels. Not that the female Fish is completely immune herself from spells of weeping and despair, from her own moods of fear and insecurity. Now and then she does give in to depression. But it’s seldom long before her shoulder-shrugging outlook of a kind of positive fatalism returns, and she’s her own serene, bright self again. Positive fatalism sounds like a non sequitur, but it isn’t really. It simply means that you accept the inevitable, and trust a wiser destiny to bring it out all right in the end.
Added to her Neptunian instinct is her insight. She’s perceptive enough to see the sparkle of a diamond before it’s cut and polished. This is where her imagination helps considerably. She can also see all the solid virtues in the Crab she loves, his many-faceted possibilities and potentials as a lifetime mate. She feels comfortable around him, because he’s not aggressive or over-critical (except on his bad Mondays and Fridays, when he’s pouting because of a change of the Moon). He has a softness about him that touches her, and at the same time, a hardness of purpose, along with an obvious sense of responsibility that makes her feel secure – of the future – of his devotion – and of her own womanhood. He’s a gentle man, a quiet man. And she is also a gentle, quiet woman. Somehow, his nearness brings her a feeling of peace and Tightness. He’s smart, he has a wonderful sense of humor. He makes her laugh, as well as cry .. . he tells fascinating stories .. . he’s witty, clever and changeable enough to intrigue her and keep her guessing. He’s just the right blend of the stable and the unpredictable to make Life interesting, to prevent love from growing stale through fixed habit. Besides all those attractions, he’s a gallant and charming lover. He can read her mind (as she reads his), always seeming to know when she most needs his arms around her .. . when she most longs to escape with him into their private world of passion and the secrets of intimacy they share.
Without a single word spoken, these two will know when the time has come for the sexual expression of their love to envelop them and still the troubled waters, as the natural union of man and woman can always do. The only time a problem can develop in their physical compatibility is if he should cause her to withdraw into herself and become temporarily frigid, by failing to make her know how much he needs her, by concentrating too much on his nameless fears and worries. But she’ll respond like a flower to the rain when he takes the time to be tender. Or he may at some time crawl into a shell of pretended disinterest when she’s been a little sarcastic or firm with him after an argument. A Pisces woman is verbally unkind and “firm” so seldom, it can shock the sensitive Crab the rare times it happens into feeling rejected. But these are small things, and after a while, the strong magnetism between Cancer and Pisces will overcome – and draw them back into each other in wholeness once more.
Both the Crab and the Fish are tenacious – in different ways. The tenacity of the Pisces woman comes from her refusal to believe failure is a permanent thing, being spiritually supported by a hunch that the end of any dismal period will be more surprisingly beneficial than ever appears possible in the midst of the purposeful confusions which, in an odd, contradictory way, will themselves be the roots of happiness, when the time comes for the fruits of the tree of experience to ripen.
The Crab’s tenacity comes from the unwillingness to let go of anything truly desired. The claw of the Crab will cling to an intensely wanted object, dream (or person) with incredible persistence, whether nearby or across a continent. The Crab’s clutch isn’t easy to avoid, even in its long-distance tenaciousness, let alone in close proximity. Wriggle as the girl Fish may, a lasting escape is difficult.
But usually, she won’t waste her energies in attempting to be released from her Cancerian man’s tugs and pulls. It’s beautiful, she feels, to be so needed. It is. In fact, it’s one of the loveliest things that could happen to a typical Pisces woman. Still, there may be scattered moments in their closeness when she’ll find it necessary to kindly explain to her lovable Looney Bird that being needed is ever-so-nice, but being possessed can be smothering. The Lunar man will turn away and weep then, silently .. . feeling lonely and rejected, never suspecting it was his own “crabbiness” that caused her to speak up in defense of her personal privacy. His Pisces lady will say, “I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to hurt you. You’re really my very favorite person in the whole world. Come on, let’s go make a wish on the New Moon together!” The Crab will brighten visibly, giggle, grab her with that tenacious grip once again, grin happily, and say, “Okay, let’s go! I’ll bet I can guess what you’re going to wish.”
Then Pisces will smile softly, and reply, “Of course. You always know my secrets. I know what you’re going to wish for too.” The Crab will shiver ecstatically, and whisper, “Shhh! Don’t tell anyone.” The Pisces woman promises, honor-bright, not to tell a soul… and off they go into a meadow somewhere, to gaze up into the sky and sing their New Moon wishing mantras.
But what Cancer won’t know is that his guess about her Piscean wish was wrong. There are many things Neptune never tells the Moon. Yes, the Fish are just a touch ykaens, always holding something back, or hiding it in code. Her Cancerian man likewise. He doesn’t share every single terces with her. He only make-believes he does.
Now I’ll tell the rest of you the most closely guarded, mutual secret of this man and woman. The reason they play so many guessing games together – Cancer and Pisces – is so that each can be sure of never losing the interest of the other.