Cancer Woman and Scorpio Man Compatibility
It was not, she knew, that night had come, but something
as dark as night had come. No, worse than that. It had
not come, but it had sent that shiver through the sea to say
that it was coming. What was it?
Although somewhat of an enigma, the Cancer girl is decidedly interesting. Beneath her surface reserve and coolness, she has a delightful sense of joy and humor. She possesses very little ego or vanity, yet she’s constantly misunderstood and accused of being cold and self-centered. Mystery attracts her, but she’s reluctant to delve too deeply into unknown, uncharted waters unless those unknown, uncharted waters surround a Scorpio man. This particular mystery she cannot resist, and in order to know him better, she’ll even discard her innate fears. For the girl Crab to control her fears is no small accomplishment. Give her “A” on her spiritual-evolvement report card for even the effort, let alone success in such a goal. Cancer fears always hover around the aura of the Moonruled, so complex, and so deeply submerged in the subconscious, that any attempt to overcome them should be appreciated and applauded.
Being appreciated is her most wistful wish, her dearest desire, though she will seldom admit it. So few people even try to understand her, let alone appreciate her. The Scorpio man will do both. Perhaps that’s why she gathers the courage to return his intense gaze. She senses this is one human being on the planet who really knows her. She’s right. He does.
If any other man attempted to penetrate her secret self with such a burning look, with such an intimate message in his glance, she would shower him with ice water and aloofness. Or snap his head off. A girl Crab can become mighty cranky when someone she doesn’t trust tries to pry open her shell. She’s always more gentle with other Cancerians, Scorpio, and Pisces, a little less irritable with Virgo and Taurus, sometimes fascinated by the male Goat – but the Aries or Libra man may expect a decided snapping reaction.
Eagles love a challenge, and coaxing the shy but funny Cancerian girl to trust him will be one of his easier ones. Equally as surprising, the normally very suspicious Scorpio Eagle will probably trust her also, from the first moment their eyes meet. It’s an extremely rare occasion when the powerful empathy between these Sun Signs isn’t visible right away. It can happen, but most infrequently.
Others in the past have accused the two of them of being cold emotionally. There’s a good reason for that. They are. After all, they’re both of the Water Element; consequently they find it difficult to display their feelings openly. But romantic temperature is a matter of interpretation. What others may call cold, to the Moon Maid and the Eagle can read from warm to hot. Compensating for their undeniable Water Element inheritance of a cooler chemistry, these two are secretly very sentimental, even more so than Taurus and Leo. The Cancer-Scorpio attempt to hide this sentimentality isn’t always successful. Tears come to both their eyes easily when their emotions are touched (which is frequently). With her, the tears often spill down over her cheeks, and the secret is out. With him, after the first unbidden misting or faint wetness, a manly gulp and a powerful surge of self-control will dry his tears so quickly most people are none the wiser. Except for her. The Moon Maid saw them. And they caused a sharp loving-pain in her heart. No one in this world can control his emotions as superbly as a Scorpio man. He exercises a continual watch over them, forcing his facial features to assume a neutral position in the midst of any emotion, from surprise or elation to hurt or grief. Nearly always, the Eagle succeeds. When he doesn’t, you can be sure the depth of the emotion felt is truly overwhelming, virtually uncontrollable. Others may not sense this, but the Cancer woman does, and it moves her deeply.
So, you see, they aren’t emotionally cold at all – it’s just that they both find it difficult to show on the outside what they’re feeling on the inside. It’s not easy for feelings, even strong ones, to break through their shells. For the Crab and the Scorpion each possess a hard shell of self-protection, an extra insurance policy from Nature against the intense degree of hurt always felt by such sensitive, sensitive creatures. This is the real basis for their empathy. Still, there will be times when she’ll have to remind herself that what seems to be a coldness and silence approaching cruelty in him can be a mixture of shyness and a reluctance to admit what he’s really thinking, until he’s sure. He’ll have to be aware that her apparent uncaring withdrawal is only her way of protecting herself from possible disappointment, until she’s assured of being loved. No one seeks and needs love more than the Moon Maiden and the Eagle. Not an ordinary love, but an all-encompassing love, woven with the strong threads of devotion, gentleness, and loyalty. That last word is ultra, super important to them both.
In direct contradiction to his surface detachment and poker face, this man is an extremist. You’d never guess it from his soft voice, his subtle strategies in his career and personal life. (You’d never guess it, but you’d better believe it!) He can sink into some abysmal wells of depression, and rise to some intoxicating heights of ecstasy. All the while, to look at him, you’d think his days were spent in monotonous fashion, with few, if any, ups and downs, the smooth lake of his personality unruffled by unexpected events. Don’t be fooled. (This advice is for other Sun Signs – the Cancer woman doesn’t need it. Remember, she knows him.) Of course, that cool poise took years of training. He unleashed some pretty sensational rages of fury as a teenager, before he mastered self-control. Ask his mother.
The Lunar lady of his dreams soon discovers that her Eagle lover’s chief faults are his suspicious nature, jealousy, and a desire to dominate his mate (and most everyone else), however well disguised – just as he realizes very early in the relationship that her weak points are secrecy, smothering possessiveness, and a quivering vulnerability to hurt, both real and imagined. Imagined hurt, whether emotional or physical, can be as painful as the real kind. Any doctor will tell you that the “imaginary pain” of an amputee, for example, is vividly felt.
All pain begins in the mind, even so-called physical pain – not in the body. And so, when dealing with his Moon Maiden’s wounded feelings, the Eagle must first realize how real the pain is to her, how dreadfully her heart aches, even though she only imagined the action which hurt her to be intentional. Then he can tenderly explain to her how medical hypnosis, and many other experiments, have proven that all pain sensations begin in the mind, before manifesting in the body, and therefore, can only be removed through the source – the mind or the imagination. The subconscious mind, depositor of all her nightmares and insecurities from childhood, is in absolute control of the body, and of all human emotional reaction. Tell a hypnotized subject the postage stamp placed on a hand or arm is a flame, and an actual blister will rise. Place a real flame against the skin, tell the hypnotized person it’s an ice cube, and no blister will appear. It’s as simple and as true as that – and it gives a clue to handling the Cancerian fear fluctuations, when the problem is actually emotional pain, rather than physical.
Sexually, the Scorpion’s love nature is more intense and yearning than that of most men. Hers is more romantic and sensitive than that of most women. What each needs most, then, from the other should be obvious: emotional security and reassurance. She needs visible tokens of his affection an unexpected rose or bunch of violets on her desk or on her pillow perhaps a small pet, like the one she had as a child, sitting there with a ribbon around its neck as a surprise some bright morning – things like that. These small things affect her sexual chemistry profoundly.
He needs to know that her lovemaking stems from a genuine desire to be one with him, that it’s not, on occasion, feigned to hide a secret boredom. You can’t hide anything from him anyway, so why try? If they remain aware of one another’s unspoken needs, their physical mating can be a truly transcendental experience. But they both may have occasion to learn that controlled passion is not passion at all. Only when two people trust one another totally in every other way can they fully express love through sexual intimacy. The special requirement these two share is the need they each have for continual demonstration of affection away from the bedroom – a demonstration for which they will rarely ask, a need they seldom verbally express, because it’s buried so deep. When this mutual need is filled, the happiness they discover in their physical lovemaking will be just about all Earthlings could wish for on this three-dimensional level of man and woman’s present awareness – as with all 5-9 Sun Sign couples, barring a negative Sun-Moon aspect between them.
I’ve said this earlier, but it bears repetition. The two dragons they must conquer together are their most negative traits: her unfounded fears and sometimes smothering possessiveness – his burning jealousy and revenge compulsion – and their mutual financial caution. (Some people call it stinginess.) When they’re angry, both tend to retreat into their individual caverns of silence, which is the worst of all possible solutions for these two Sun Signs (although other Fire Sign 5-9 Patterns could profit by a little more of the stuff). What Cancer and Scorpio need, however, is to talk it over, to verbalize their complaints. Burying a resentment in silence won’t make it disappear. It only allows what began as a minor irritation to grow into a not-so-jolly green giant which can destroy their relationship. It’s always unfortunate when any 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern vibration is destroyed, because they invariably miss each other so very much.
This is a woman who needs a Valentine every February, a hyacinth for Easter, the merry sound of antique sleigh bells at Christmas to match her merry laughter… a tiny diamond, or something shining and silvery for the New Year… a nostalgic box of sparklers on the Fourth of July… lots and lots of time to reminisce about the past on Thanksgiving… and no unexpected goblins to frighten her on Halloween.
This is a man who may pretend to ignore holidays, but watch his normally impassive, controlled features light up in sheer delight, should the woman he loves happen to leave a crazy stuffed animal perched on the dashboard of his car, on Groundhog’s Day. For a brief, enchanted moment, she’ll catch a glimpse of the way he grinned when he was a small boy, before he learned to master his poker face and that enigmatic, mysterious smile.