“So I ran away to Kensington Gardens and lived a long
long time among the fairies.”
She gave him a look of the most intense admiration, and he
thought it was because he had run away, but it was really
because he knew fairies.
There are many reasons why these two are sure to notice each other in a crowd, but the main one is that faint chord of music they both hear. The Aquarian girl has always felt that no one truly understands her. Most people judge her unfairly, figure she’s playing with only half a deck of cards, full of wild imaginings, a crazy daisy born several hundred years too soon. Everyone but him.
The Gemini man has always felt that no one really understands his dreams. Most people judge him unfairly, figure he’s unreliable, sometimes too talkative, at other times too moody, immature – and totally irresponsible. Everybody but her.
The first recognition of kindredship between Gemini and Aquarius always reminds me of the meeting between Saint-Exupery’s Little Prince and the pilot. As a child, the pilot drew a picture of a boa constrictor who had swallowed an elephant, which, unfortunately, resembled a hat. All his life, no matter to whom he showed his picture, people would never recognize it as a boa constrictor who had swallowed an elephant, but would always say, “Yes, that’s a nice drawing of a hat.” It hurts when others can’t comprehend your intense efforts, and it’s lonely. Then one day, after he’s grown up, the pilot meets a strange little man in the desert, who asks him to draw a picture of a sheep. Exasperated, the pilot scribbles the same picture of his childhood – the one everybody always took to be a drawing of a hat. But when the Little Prince gazes at the sketch, he shakes his head immediately, and says, “No, no. I don’t want a picture of a boa constrictor who has swallowed an elephant. I asked you to draw me a sheep.”
That’s the faint chord of music I mean. Without a single word of explanation someone knows! Only music, never mere words, can describe the
fountain of pure joy that wells up in the soul when after years of lonely, futile searching, one comes upon another being who really (not nearly, but really) recognizes and comprehends all the secret yearnings and attempts to communicate that others have ridiculed or ignored in the past.
Later.this first faint chord of music from the spheres, as lovely and longawaited as it is, contains a sour note or two somewhere along the way in the symphony of love between Gemini and Aquarius. But this is a small burden to bear when compared to the broken rhythms and discordant melodies both have been exposed to until they finally found each other. Although no relationship is perfect, a 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern often comes closer to being so than most others. If the Sun-Moon aspects between them are conjunct, sextile or trine, they can reach a rare harmony of living and loving. Even without this planetary assistance, they’re better matched than many and will usually remain friendly, whether romance lingers or not.
Sun Signs which are in trine complement each other in ways only the two people involved can appreciate. But one of them is always ahead of the other on the zodiac wheel, on the soul level, in karmic lessons. In this case, it’s the Aquarian woman who is somewhat wiser in a subconscious, spiritual sense than the Gemini man she loves. So she’ll be the one who will have to do the most giving and be more tolerant. Tolerance comes easily to most Aquarians, who are basically unprejudiced and know well the meaning of the words – “Help thy brother’s boat across and lo! thine own shall reach the shore.” Uranus incites humanitarianism in Water Bearers, infuses the Aquarian woman with a spirit of brotherhood (and sisterhood). It’s possible she may have too many friends, at least too many for men born under other Sun Signs. The Gemini man may not find time to resent the strange birds she gathers around her, because he’s too busy being gregarious himself. Only the very rare Geminian with heavy planetary afflictions in his birth horoscope is a loner. The home of a Water Bearer and a Mercury Bird is seldom quiet. If they’re both typical of their Sun Signs, it will be filled with people more often than it’s empty.
These two will make many mistakes while trying to love each other for richer and for poorer, for better or for worse. But they’ll be interesting mistakes, seldom boring. One mistake he’s likely to make is expecting her to put up with his little white lies. She’s outraged when he stretches the truth or distorts it. Aquarian women tend to claim they are honest and aboveboard in every way. They do their own thing and never lie about it, whether society approves or not. But the Gemini man is clever and astute enough to analyze her own peculiar brand of dishonesty, which consists of sins of omission. She tells the truth, yes – but sometimes only part of it, only what she wishes to tell, holding back the whole truth, never playing all her cards at one time. When he accuses her of this, she evidences surprise and hurt. He may point out to her that she has other ways of being less than truthful, namely her manner of expressing her true feelings in such a way that only the Red Queen, Tweedledum or Tweedledee could correctly interpret them.
The honesty game between Gemini and Aquarius is complicated, and they are perhaps the only ones who can untangle the knots. Sometimes they do. Sometimes they don’t. They will never stop trying. Both of them enjoy mental games and are amateur detectives, instinctively alert to every nuance. This talent is obvious in Gemini, more disguised in Aquarius, beneath the surface mask of “dingbat,” wide-eyed innocence and detachment.
The mistake she could make is expecting him to mean exactly what he says. Gemini never means exactly what he says. He uses words as blessings to charm, coax, persuade and cajole; sometimes as weapons to taunt, tease and hurt. He makes speeches that magnetize her into rapt attention, then hold her spellbound – or he can break her heart with his mercurial brand of withering sarcasm and sharp comments. It’s nearly always a mistake to cry in front of a Gemini man. He can’t cope with tears. Intensely emotional scenes frighten him as they would a child. And so, often he reacts with what appear to be cold and unsympathetic words – using them as weapons again, this time to protect himself against the pain that accompanies compassion.
He wants no part of pain, this man, if he can possibly avoid it. The art of satire was invented by Gemini, who weaves words into sentences as the light-fingered magician strings brightly colored beads, pulls another rabbit from his hat, another flowing scarf from his sleeve at the last minute, making his audience sigh and gasp with admiration. Today he is happy, tomorrow miserable, then jolly and exuberant the day after that. His emotions are genuine, they’re for real. It’s just that they don’t last. The Aquarian girl can usually tolerate his quicksilver moods better than most females, for a very good reason. She hardly notices anything half the time – anything at all. See the cloudy, misty, faraway look in her eyes? That comes from sailing out there among the clouds on her own wave-length, somewhere in the future, momentarily out of touch with Earth and Earthlings, including his twinned moods. He can pass from suicidal to serene before she’s aware of what’s happening.
In youth, the Aquarian girl drapes her dream-lover with a sparkling halo of impossible rainbow-spectrumed beauty, which could never fit around the head and shoulders of the average male with the usual number of flaws and defects of character. But she learns to hide her vulnerability under the guise of a cool, detached, friendly “let’s pal around together” attitude as she settles for something less, all the time secretly treasuring the sentimental illusions of youth. Therefore, the older she is when she meets Gemini, the less apt she is to be wounded by his light attitude toward love. Hers can match his in lightness… then. Aquarians nearly all have this strange twist. If they marry more than once, the final marriage will usually occur later in life, when they find someone in need of Uranus wisdom. Then she will turn this man into the astral lover of her teens, finally fulfilling as much as possible her original ideal of a love-friendship combination. The last lover could be a Gemini, who is also desirous of combining love and friendship and is equally as likely to confuse the two feelings as she.
Both the Gemini man and the Aquarian woman have inner fears and doubts about their sex appeal. At some time in the past, they’ve both privately worried over some problem related to their sexuality, perhaps experienced the humiliation of having been called frigid or at least temporarily unresponsive – especially if either of them have been previously entangled with Fire, Earth or Water Signs.
Together, they can prove to one another the falsehood of these accusations from former lovers. Gemini and Aquarius tend to give only as much as needed and expected, and seldom demand more than what is given, thus often achieving a happy balance in sexual union. Unless one or both of them have a heavily afflicted Venus or Mars in the birth chart, they should find more sexual fulfillment within their physical union than they ever have before with former mates – or probably ever could in the future with new ones. Of course, “probably” is not definitely, but it’s a stronger promise than possibly.
Didn’t you realize that as a child, when you asked to go to the circus, and some adult said “possibly” you may go, and your heart sank to the soles of your Buster Browns – or said “probably” you may go, and your heart crawled back up to your knees – or said “definitely” you may go, and your heart flipped right back into place where it belonged, thumping wildly in joy and gratitude and excitement? Both Gemini and Aquarius tend more toward a passion of the mind than of the senses – more emotional intricacies in communicating love than through pure physical abandon to feeling.
Almost always, these two, when there is a break in the relationship, can remain nearly as close, find much of the same affinity as in the beginning. When Gemini and Aquarius are hurt, they both retreat back into the security of a safe, protective, emotionally undemanding friendship. Friendship is a marvelous thing, but sometimes Gemini and Aquarius will sacrifice love for it, because love takes more faith, more courage than a buddy-buddy relationship.
There is a pronounced mysticism between this man and woman, a shimmering thread of light connecting their souls, if they are true mates – as with Aries and Leo, Taurus and Capricorn .. . and all 5-9 Sun Sign Patterns. If they like, they may tug on this thread, to pull themselves back to each other. Not all 5-9 vibrations constitute twin souls, of course, but those that do, allow Soul-Mates easier recognition and more effortless communion than might be granted to true lovers disciplined by other Sun Sign Pattern influences.
As long as he understands that when she laughs, she may be sobbing inwardly – when she cries, she may be inwardly joyous and as long as she understands that he can fly away today and return tomorrow (or next week, next month or next year .. . but eventually), there will be more pleasure than pain in their loving. Together, Gemini and Aquarius can perform miracles, such as the fusing of several realities into a single, enchanted one. There’s such a bond of feeling between them, such shared madness and loneliness. They would never see one another’s pictures of a boa constrictor who had swallowed an elephant as the drawing of an ordinary hat.
And the two of them together could quite probably even convince all boas that it isn’t nice or natural to swallow a pachyderm for lunch.