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The fact that the Gemini woman and the Libra man are so much alike is what makes them so compatible and happy together. Also, the fact that the Gemini woman and the Libra man are so much alike is what starts most of the trouble between them.
They know each other only too well, sympathize with one another’s dreams and idiosyncrasies, can calmly cope with their mutual chameleon qualities, comprehend each other’s various moods, and will usually stick together against outsiders who don’t understand the airy mentality. If either he or she has a more sensitive and emotional Water Element or a more stable Earth Element as a Moon Sign or Ascendent, their happiness and bliss is pretty much astrologically insured. Otherwise, these two are still guaranteed a far better than average chance for success, except for small flurries on especially windy days. They can both be a trifle windy, full of both cool breezes and hot air. As a 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern, they are more harmoniously matched than most couples who are trying to fit the jig-saw pieces of the puzzle of love into a perfect picture.
Both of them are aesthetically inclined, moved by beauty, acutely disturbed by untidiness, ugliness, and disorder. Yet, despite this mutual essence, Gemini and Libra, while needing, even demanding loveliness and order, may frequently need a brisk Sagittarian, an energetic Aries, or an efficient Virgo maid to clean up after them. Of course, some Geminis and Librans are tidy. But even they would prefer to have someone else straighten out their messes – emotionally as well as actually. Since Gemini is quicker, she will often be the one to follow her Libra man around, picking up his discarded socks and banana peels. In return, he will probably not deny her the money (if he has it) to make their surroundings ever more comfortable and beautiful. More often than not, the nest of these two love birds is charming, tasteful, pleasant to the eye, and probably full of books. Even if they live in a tent, it will be well pegged and insulated, with maybe burned etchings on the canvas for decor – and the soft sound of tomtoms beating in the background. Soft, I said. Not too disturbing, because Libra can’t stand loud noises, lopsided stools or crooked tent pegs.
When this man and woman quarrel, it will almost always be she who starts it – and he who finishes it. At least it will seem that way to observers. A Gemini female, for all her airy charm and delicate femininity, possesses a sharp, satirical tongue, and she’s not reluctant to use it when her fast mind urges her to express her quick opinions. Her Libra lover or husband will have recognized early in Life that rudeness and frank speech is a stumbling block to achieving his true and secret purpose, whether in love or business. So he projects a sort of gentle amiability (most times) and is an expert at hiding his passions and intent behind a smooth smile and a persuasive voice. Yes, she may have started it verbally. But he may be at the bottom of it, the real initial instigator of the quarrel – by spending two weeks to make up his mind whether they should take their vacation this month or next, while she had to stall the airlines and coax them into holding their reservations during the busy season or something similar. Therefore, regardless of who outwardly starts the fussing, he is seldom innocent.
Libra men are never as innocent as they look and sound, or as they would like to have you believe. In fact, there are times (rare, but they do exist) when his Scales are dipping, and he can be as cranky as a cuckoo bird stuck in the little clock door. On those occasions, however, he probably apologizes so sweetly, overwhelming her with so much sugary Libra charm, that she may forget to remember his grumpiness later. Strangers who gaze upon the Libra man’s smooth, even features have no way of knowing about the painfully articulated resolves forming in his mind beneath his cheerful exterior – or the crankiness displayed to his intimates while these are in the formative stage.
A Gemini girl might take a notion to be a dress designer. Then she could become dazzled by the idea of getting a pilot’s license and maybe her own Lear jet. Following that, she could take a new notion to translate Sanskrit, study the Dead Sea scrolls, open a pet shop or enroll in law school. But the Libra man can handle all her tangled notions and emotions better than an Earth Sign male, who might erupt like a volcano – a Fire Sign male, who might burn all the oxygen out of her enthusiasms – or a Water Sign male, who might dampen her excitement with a wet blanket.
Libra understands Gemini’s wanderlust of the mind and heart, yet is stable and logical enough to control her more erratic impulses before they blow up out of proportion, gently pointing out the pros and cons to her, until she decides to find her bluebird a little closer to home – and to him.
Serene is the word. Libra can be a serene influence on Gemini, except for those occasional cranky-bear spells he charms her into forgetting. Goodness knows the Gemini girl needs serenity. Hers is a restless spirit, a seeking soul. She longs poignantly to know what she wants, where she stands, who she is and why she’s going – or coming. The Libra man is the most logical one to explain all this to her. But.. . well, you see .. . a Gemini girl is made up of so many fragments – of honey and spice and everything nice, yes. Yet, she’s far more than this. She’s all the books she ever studied, a reflection of the ideas and philosophies of her mirror-image Twin, diametrically opposed to her own. She’s the swinging rope she skipped in childhood, the plaintive wail of the gulls, and the secrets she whispered to the sandpipers on the beach she once walked along, the memory of her first dance .. . tumbleweeds and tornadoes .. . the flickering candles of a half-forgotten New Year’s Eve. These fragments of the Gemini girl make up her private world, where the Libra man who loves her can never freely roam, even though he may guide her through it.. . from a distance
There’s something judicial and cold in Libra’s balanced thinking process, despite his charm and sweetness, that doesn’t permit him to enter the deep woods of the changeable fairyland where she and her Twin so frequently dwell.He can watch her lovingly, as she removes her shoes and runs through the grass barefoot – he can wait by the gate until she returns from her faraway land, but he can never truly join her. Why? Because he would first have to locate it on a map, see if an airline booked a flight there, learn its population and study its chief industry, before loping off with her. Otherwise, how could he prove to himself logically that such a place really does exist? And if it doesn’t exist, why go there at all? There’s an invisible veil between this man and woman, for all their many similarities of personality.
Their physical relationship is usually blessed with nearly complete fulfillment, the kind of fulfillment only two Air Signs are able to comprehend (or desire). At night, sometimes lying alone beside her (yes, lying alone beside her) he’s grateful when she returns from her make-believe world, back into his arms, often not even guessing that fragments of her are still out there, chasing moonbeams and playing tag with the stars. She feels to him like she is there. And, of course, part of her is – the one who has vowed to love and cherish him, never to leave him. She can’t be expected to account for the other, wayward one – her Twin, who refuses to obey, even when she, herself, pleads.
Their sexual union will not be as all consuming as that between two Fire or Earth signs, but it can be as refreshing as a summer storm, with flashes of thunder and lightning. They are both airy, mental souls, living primarily in the mind, not in the emotions, and so explosive passion may be missing, but the total peace and tranquility of a deeply affectionate blending can be theirs. Sex, as with all 5-9 Sun Sign Patterns, is important to this couple, but not primary for happiness. Romantic love is equally needed, perhaps even more desired, by both, and forms the true basis for the initial attraction between them.
These two will take turns being the aggressive partner in their lovemaking. Both can switch from active to passive, from masculine to feminine, in a strange, mystical way that makes their sexual experiences a constantly changing yet harmoniously blended delight. If they have twin beds, there might be a few discussions about who gets to sleep nearest the window, but aside from such minor adjustments, these two will usually wake up in each other’s arms, sharing a goodmorning embrace that melts the previous night’s disputes, as the Sun disperses clouds.
They may need and complete each other physically, yet it’s possible that he may be more in love with her mind and spirit than with her body, and she may have more interest in his intellect and soul than in his sexuality – even though they may be only dimly aware of this. The chemistry between two Air Signs is misty, mental, and variable – rather than earthy, passionate, and sensual. Not all Gemini girls desire children, and very few dream of large families, but when they do, it will often be a Libra man who is chosen to father them. Many Gemini girls who would not have a child with any other man will find motherhood more attractive with a Libra male.
If she marries him, it will be because she likes the way he sings or dances or whistles the way he moves and walks and talks and winks. The way he dresses too. Then, womanlike, she may set about to try to change him afterwards. Ruled by Venus as he is, the Libra man may tolerate this and try to please her, because he loves her – until he finally realizes that, although she thrives on change, too much change affects his own equilibrium. So he’ll roar (gently) and put his foot down (softly) to prove he’s a masculine Cardinal Sign, return to his old ways – and it will probably be best for both of them. They’re likely to do lots of traveling together, may have either religious or educational reasons for getting together, and may meet on a trip. If he ever gets interested in UFO’s, it will probably be because of her. She will inspire him to reach heights he would not have aspired to reach without her. Because they both have wings on their heels – and hearts – they may change residence more often than lovers or mates born under other Sun Signs.
There is little doubt that the Gemini woman will at times confuse and confound her Libra lover or husband. She is, after all, so many women in one. She can be the most talkative when he’s trying to think or struggling with a decision, the prettiest when she has provoked him into a spell of rare Libra anger, the most silent when he wants to show her off to his friends, the most energetic at bedtime, the laziest in the morning when he’s waiting for his poached eggs – but what other woman could be such a kaleidoscope of grief, joy, annoyance, happiness, embarrassment, irritation, delight, and frustration as this twin-packaged mystery of femininity?
True, she can be untidy, lose the car keys, tangle up the checkbook, waste his time and money, destroy his dignity, and try his temper – but just when he’s ready to walk out, her little-girl misty tears begin to splash, switching almost instantly into a rippling Gemini laugh and he’s lost again, caught between the myriad women bottled up inside this girl, who needs his strength if she’s ever going to find her way out of the woods.
As for him, he’ll relentlessly try to force her to be more logical and stable, criticize her faults, refuse to help her pick daisies when he has work to do, shatter her fragile nerves, and sometimes behave like a stern judge, pronouncing sentence over her free spirit – but when her dreams are scattered, her house and her hair are both a mess, and she feels like a silly, foolish child, he can make her feel like a woman when he smiles and says, “I don’t know why I love you so much, but I do.”
Then she realizes that she’s the one problem he can never balance on his Scales and make come out even. Being a daughter of Eve, she will privately smile, knowing that the solution to the enigma of herself can never be totally analyzed by his intellect, only by his heart. Yet, also perversely, Eve-like, she’ll refuse to share this key to love’s Gemini secret with him, wanting him to guess. One serious level of disagreement within this liaison of Air will be the Libra man’s proclivity to weigh and judge things – to see life, people and situations in the proper perspective and balance, coolly and logically, with an odd sort of detachment, void of all whimsical notion. Not only does this facet of his nature clash rather sharply with his own inherent optimism and faith, it will also frequently conflict with her tendency to see all these things, not as they are, but as they ought to be. She sees what she desires to see, coloring facts with fancy, avoiding delusion (to her way of thinking) by drenching everything with illusion.
If he doesn’t make a sincere effort to comprehend her attitude with compassion, she may be forced to tell little white lies to defend her viewpoint. This woman can be frightened of those who demand always the exact, precise, unvarnished truth, with no allowances made for “maybe” – “perhaps” – and “suppose it had been.” Then, she could be forced to escape by plunging even deeper into unreality. It wouldn’t hurt Libra to add a few sprinkles of Gemini imagination to all the matters he balances so seriously on his Scales. For truth is often not what it appears to be – (Mercury taught her that) – logic can be deceptive and facts can fool.
When the night is frosty and full of stars, who expects a warm summer rain to be hiding just behind Arcturus? The Twins do. She knows that true wisdom is only gained by adapting to life’s ever-changing patterns. But he cannot accept today’s patterns until he’s weighed them mentally against former and future patterns and found them worthy of acceptance. Somewhere along the way, near the center of these polarized points of view, Gemini and Libra will meet,touch lightly linger and love.