…his way was with a pencil and a piece of paper, and if
she confused him with suggestions he had to begin at the
“Now don’t interrupt,” he would beg of her.
The first problem this man and woman face is the contrast between her gregariousness and his tendency to reclusivity. If he’s a typical Virgo male, barring a more convivial Moon Sign or Ascendent, he would really prefer, within his deepest subconscious, to live alone, without the necessity of having a constant companion tagging along beside him – even if she’s bright, pretty, soft and squeezable. A man can’t spend all his time squeezing a wife. Some hours must be spent in squeezing plans for future security into the proper molds. Consequently, when the Gemini girl seeks periodic flings of freedom, her Virgo lover or husband may grumble a bit outwardly, but inwardly he probably sighs with relief. Now he can have a little peace and quiet, to figure out how many atoms make up a molecule, what caused the stock market to zip up or slip down last week, adjust his alarm clock, sort his laundry, count his cat’s whiskers and ponder the puzzles of the Universe in general, without all that constant chattering and flurry of activity. He may genuinely love his Gemini girl, but his heart contains hidden shelves, where she is not allowed to dust – or even peek. When she’s constantly dazzling him with her perfume, her squeezability, quick wit and mental agility, he gets confused and loses track of which opinion he has glued to what shelf, even the particular day and year he stashed it away there. And so, he may not question her whereabouts, so pleased is he to have a period of restful contemplation.
Not that there aren’t some Virgo men who display occasional, half-hearted spurts of jealousy. There are a few. But it’s a great mistake to become angry with the diversity of a Gemini girl, when you analyze it, and Virgos are past masters at analyzing. Her need to communicate with a variety of people (and men do, after all, make up roughly half the human race) should not be interpreted as unfaithfulness or promiscuity – unless it’s certain that this is the case. Sometimes it is. Yet, surprisingly often, it is not. Admittedly, it can become so, if his Virgo criticism, hair-splitting and nagging cause her to feel her wings are being clipped. If there’s anything a Gemini female can’t stand, it’s having her wings clipped, cropped or folded. Birds must fly. Birds in cages constitute unbearable cruelty against Nature’s intent.
Still, for a man whose essential attitude and Sun Sign essence points him toward bachelorhood, the Virgo male is capable, when he chooses, of settling down into the groove of matrimony – or a shared life with a woman he loves – with an unexpected grace. Although he’s basically a loner and dislikes sharing his every thought with a mate, Virgo is of the Earth Element, and Earth stays where it was placed by Nature, unless an earthquake or a tornado dislodges portions of it. But is that the Earth’s fault? There it was, minding its own business .. .
I have thus far referred to their relationship as though it were marbled in matrimony, because most Virgos become uneasy living with a woman without benefit of clergy. Not all. Most. Geminis, however, normally do not find it difficult to sanction and champion free love or free marriage. Gemini is all for anything that has the word “free” in it. Therefore, whether to wed – or not to wed – may be a question of initial contention, once they’ve both been chemically magnetized into desiring union.
In the necessary confines of love or marriage, as with a business partner, the Virgo man will not ordinarily seek to dominate. He tends to be quite impeccably businesslike about his love affair or marriage, and unless he has an extremely afflicted horoscope emotionally, he will make an excellent partner, insofar as small comforts and conveniences are concerned, attending dutifully and diligently to birthdays and anniversaries, emptying the kitty litter and making sure they don’t run out of vitamins. Most Gemini girls would, of course, prefer to have their birthdays and anniversaries observed through the customary process of passionate or sentimental memory, rather than through periodic checking of a date and appointment book with a red pencil. But who is she to complain? Dates are certainly not her own strong point, and she may get mixed up, from time to time, sending him a get-well card on her mother’s birthday or buying him a wedding-anniversary gift on the date they bought the house – and while we’re on the subject of homes, if they buy one, he will suggest it first, nine times out of ten. The tenth time, if she happens to be the one who initiates a consultation with a real-estate agent, check her Moon Sign or Ascendent. One or both is probably in the Earth Element. The typical Gemini girl likes houses well enough, but prefers apartments, because she can change them once in awhile, say every few months or so. Needless to remark, Virgo men normally do not find this sort of musical tepee game feasible or practical. It will pay to remember that practicality – too little or too much of it – will be the true underlying cause for many of their arguments. He has too much to please her and she has too little to suit him, if he is a typical Virgo and she is a typical Gemini.
As for their sexual compatibility, a Virgo can be, with all his innate sweetness, courtesy, consideration and punctuality, an impossible lover or husband for a temperamental woman. Of course, not all Geminis are temperamental. Or rather, one of her Twin selves may be emotionally temperamental – and the other may be detached. Virgo males, you see, are not overly emotional. Nor is the average Virgo unduly affectionate. Legend claims that Narcissus was a Virgo, helplessly in love with his own image. I personally believe Narcissus was a Leo, but aside from all that, it is true that Virgo men are often accused of being cold and self-centered. (Leo can be self-centered, but never cold.)
If the deepest spiritual secret of sex is the mutual abandonment of the self for the mate, resulting in a fusion of minds, souls, and bodies into perfect Oneness (which, as a matter of fact, it is), the typical Virgo has yet to master this esoteric mystery. Unless he’s carefully and tenderly taught, or unless he had an early Scorpio sweetheart, it may elude him for a number of years, perhaps for a lifetime. He unconsciously shrinks from the concept of total surrender as he shrinks from the idea of using someone else’s Vicks salve. I know a Gemini woman (this is not a fable) who once told me her Virgo husband insisted on labeling the two Vicks salve jars in the medicine chest HIS and HERS. Nearly every Virgo was frightened in the womb by a mean germ (and a scattering of Aquarians were also).
Not only does this man mistrust surrender, sexual or otherwise, he’s not too hung up on the initial step of conquest either .. . so he may fail to arouse enthusiasm in himself, or in others. This might not go over well with an Aries, Leo or Scorpio female, but it could be the reason the Twins fell in love with him in the first place. Not all, but the majority of Gemini girls feel more secure, in or out of wedlock, whether they realize it or not, when they can play love as a pretend game. Gemini lovemaking is airy and light, delicate, ethereal. Since a Virgo man is beautifully adept at the art of light lovemaking, he can succeed with her where other men have failed because they refused to play the make-believe game with her.
Instinctively, she could feel emotionally safe with this man, and they may offer one another a sense of security that forms a foundation for the later development of a deep passion between them – which might never have flowered in her with a more sexually serious male – or with a more passionately demanding female, speaking for his side of the matter. She might find some of his habits, like showering both before and immediately after their physical togetherness, a little disconcerting – but then, he could also find her habit of interrupting their goodnight kiss, or preliminary to an intimate union embrace, with an account of a weird dream she had last weekend to be somewhat dampening and discouraging too. Neither of them will be totally emotionally destroyed if this should happen to postpone their kiss or embrace until the following morning.
Yes, they will have their small differences. Most Gemini girls enjoy sleeping late and are subject to periodic attacks of insomnia. Virgo men suffer from insomnia too, when they’re worried about something, which is frequently – but this man would rather be caught wearing red- and purple-flowered Levi’s as be caught sleeping till noon, both of these choices of behavior being, more or less, mortal sins to the Virgin. If he’s the kind of Virgo who insists on a neat house and punctual meals, he’ll soon learn that this girl won’t see the need for absolute perfection in such areas. She’s certainly capable of being an exquisite hostess (although he seldom brings anyone home for her to hostess) and when she chooses, she can create a delightful home atmosphere. But it’s doubtful that she’ll scrub floors with true enthusiasm and excitement – and if she smokes (pray not!), there may be a few dirty ashtrays around. This won’t make a hit with him, because most Virgos detest smoking to begin with, and they positively despise the offensive odor of full ashtrays.
Surprisingly, however, the usual, petty, day-to-day irritations may not cause any major quarrels between them. A Virgo man doesn’t really demand a whole lot from either love or marriage, except maybe his own Vicks salve jar and neither does she. He would appreciate, of course, some punctuality concerning meals, at least a semblance of faithfulness. But, in general, a Gemini girl is adaptable enough to cope with things that could cause despair in other females, and he’s practical enough not to expect love and marriage to be made either in heaven or in hell, but somewhere in-between. Barring severe planetary afflictions between their birth charts, these two will probably not be overly demanding of one another, compared to other Sun Sign combinations.
Her swift personality changes and many moods could puzzle and annoy him. His quiet spells of introversion, during which he refuses to communicate,could flash her into many an instant, but normally quickly dispersed, thunderstorm. There are times when he’ll bore her to tears, and she’ll agitate him into indigestion – and it’s also possible that their lives together may be one long guessing game of verbal chess and emotional jai alai. Yet, it’s equally possible that she’ll supply the excitement and the zest for living that this man desires so wistfully and needs so very much – whereas he’ll supply the stability of purpose she’s seeking, even though she’s not aware she’s seeking it.
Gemini is Air, Virgo is Earth, and these two elements have little in common. But this is a 4-10 Sun Sign Pattern, and mutual respect may, therefore, be the magnet that brings them together, while duty or responsibility of some kind, related to family ties or career, may hold them together.
A Virgo man is more truthful than a Sagittarian man, more basically honest than even the Archers. To him, telling the truth saves a great deal of trouble. His grandmother used to singsong, “Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive,” and he decided way back then that deception was an unnecessary burden. In no way does he wish to become tangled up in any sort of web. Certainly not one of his own making. And so, the typical Virgo will place the straight facts of any situation right on the table, with no hedging. It’s not a habit designed to endear him to anyone, but one of his most admirable qualities is that he doesn’t much care if he endears himself to everyone – just to a few close friends. If they like him, and if he can serve them as best he knows how, that’s enough for him. He doesn’t need to win popularity contests to be contented with things the way they are, and make the best of Life. In fact, he often makes much better than the best of Life – and of love – if he’s handled gently, softly – and not engulfed in waves of emotion that cause his quiet charm and beautiful manner to retreat into a self-made cave to avoid conflict. When the conflict is something other than emotional, however, he’ll press ahead and will rarely turn back from what he believes is the right course.
The path of the Virgo male is seldom strewn with flowers, nor does he stop on the way to pluck posies of praise for his services. Still, his heart will be lighter, and his spirit brighter, if he allows a Gemini girl to dance along beside him and fill those lonely moments with her lovely laugh, her way of catching a breeze in her hands, and phrasing the sound of a cool woodland stream in her voice, even when she’s only saying “Good morning, darling.” The word “impossible” doesn’t exist for her. If something can’t be accomplished one way, then she’ll think of a new way, a better way. It’s a talent he should find beautifully helpful. She’s incorrigible, irrepressible – but also irresistible. With a harmonious Luminary exchange between their horoscopes, they can, perhaps, find a familiar country in each other’s smiles that will be a wonderful adventure to explore together.
But the Gemini girl is Twins, sometimes even triplets. And a Virgo man has enough trouble coping with just one woman. He wasn’t born to be able to handle a harem – or a mate with a multiple personality. To achieve happiness with him, the Gemini girl must first decide who she is, then forever after remain indivisibly his.