Leo Man and Scorpio Woman Compatibility
Ought I?” Wendy said, all shining. “Of course it’s
frightfully fascinating, but you see I am only a little girl. I
have no real experience.”
“That doesn’t matter,” said Peter, as if he were the only
person present who knew all about it, though he was really
the one who knew least.
She’s lying, as Scorpios sometimes do, in a desperate attempt to hide their innermost feelings. No real experience? She has the experience of eons of incarnations in Pluto wisdom. Ignore her deliberate put-down of herself.
Oddly enough, it’s his ego. No. Ego is perhaps not the right word for it. It is his self-confidence, so easily and casually displayed, which first causes the Scorpio girl to become enchanted by the charismatic Lion. She possesses selfconfidence too (actually, bushels more than he does), but she’s unable to project her confidence with such confidence. I know that sounds confusing, but read it again and you’ll see the sense of it. And so, the Scorpio female finds much to admire in Leo, even to respect. Unlike herself, he has discovered a way to let the world know how sure of himself he is inside – even when he’s not so sure. Her confidence in her own inner knowing, of which she is always sure, often seems to her as though it would remain locked up within herself forever. Perhaps he has the key .. . and if he does .. . what joyous freedom he might grant her!
He is attracted to her for nearly identical reasons. She’s usually unaware of the cool poise and inner wisdom she projects to others with just a deep, deep look. Most recipients of her gaze simply cringe and look away immediately, to avoid – they’re not quite sure just what – they’re only positive they want to avoid it. Not so the brave, stalwart Lion. Her gaze fascinates him. Sometimes he feels he’s drowning in the cool, placid waters of her eyes, sometimes he feels he’s learning mystical secrets by an unspoken transfer of knowledge. At other times he feels dangerously close to being swept into the storm of the churning, lashing waves behind her Scorpio stare, and to a Leo that’s not spooky or Halloween-scary – it’s downright exciting.
She envies him his ability to spread such warmth. Being a Water Sign herself, no matter how much she may desire otherwise, the warmth she feels translates itself into some degree of detached coolness, even with those she loves the most. But a Leo male is ruled by the fiery Sun, even when he’s angry or pouting. It’s impossible to be near a Lion and not feel the heat from the Sun’s rays penetrating your entire being. Like basking in front of a cozy hearth, when he’s happy – like warming yourself before glowing coals, when he’s feeling nothing much at all – or like the thrill of watching a huge forest fire, when he’s aroused. If only she could spend her own, far more deeply felt emotions with such lavish unconcern. She keeps trying unsuccessfully to display her feelings more openly then here comes this dashing man who can demonstrate his pride and prejudices with so little effort, so gracefully. He even walks gracefully, like a Big Cat stalking through the jungle, an unmistakably regal dignity to his stride. No wonder she falls passionately in love with him. No wonder she adores him. And no wonder the Leo male is magnetized by the Scorpio girl. There’s nothing on this Earth he enjoys more than being adored. Unless it’s being worshiped. When the snake stealthily enters their fresh, green Eden, they’re both surprised,
hurt, and disappointed. What could have happened? So many things are still right…. what could possibly have gone wrong?
It’s not difficult to identify the problems. Recently, in Cripple Creek, Colora do, I was visiting two good friends who own the Gasthof Restaurant there Carroll (he’s a Leo) and his wife, Barbara (she’s a Scorp, short for Scorpio). Just for fun, but with a method to my madness, I suggested they play an astrological telegram game with me. (I made notes.) “Can you sum up,” I asked the Scorp, “all the things you most object to in Carroll, all the things that annoy you the most and cause the most tension in your relationship with him – in just one word?”
She thought momentarily, then flashed her Leo mate one of those cold, hard stares, as she announced clearly and emphatically: “Arrogance.” (The two of them had been having some minor difficulties for the past few days, in the manner of all couples, from time to time.) Not relishing the risk of being in the middle of a Fire-Water conflict, I tried not to look closely at the Lion’s expression while I asked him, as cheerfully as I could, the same question. “How would you sum up in only one word your objections to Barbara’s habits and character, Carroll?”
Without an instant’s hesitation he frowned at her and growled angrily, “Silence. ” “Perfect!” I exclaimed. “Just perfect!” They turned to me in puzzlement.
Then I hastened to explain, “I mean, your one-word answers were a perfect example of the disharmony between Leo and Scorpio.. that is, between all Leos and all Scorpios,” I hastily amended. Then I asked Carroll, the Lion, my second question. “Now, can you sum up for me the quality in Barbara that attracts you the most, what it is in her you most admire and love – in one word?”
His trembling, thinly controlled anger suddenly melted, as ice melts on a sunny day at high noon, and he glanced at her with genuine tenderness, while he said softly – something rather wonderful.
“I guess that one word would be .. . devotion.” He paused, then continued with an impulsive rush of feeling. “When I was in the hospital last month, in such pain from my broken leg, lying there in a cast from my toes to my hip, and groggy from sedatives, every time I opened my eyes, she was there. Just sitting there, in case there was anything I needed. It’s a long trip from Cripple Creek to the St. Francis Hospital in Colorado Springs, and she has so much to do with the restaurant and the children [they have four boys] and the house and all, I don’t know how she found the time and energy to be there. But she was always there. She always is there .. . when I need her.” Then he blushed, aware that his romantic declaration had an audience, and finished, a little haltingly. “I guess she’s .. well, it’s like I said .. . I can’t think of any other word but devotion.”
As he was speaking, tears filled the Scorpio woman’s eyes, and she swallowed hard. The tenseness throbbing between them before had miraculously disappeared, and they gazed at one another for a brief, but meaningful moment, as the Lion’s eyes, too, sparkled with tears. Reluctant to interrupt this rare moment of singing communication between them, I nevertheless continued the game, and asked Barbara, “And you? What one word would you choose to describe all the positive qualities in Carroll that make you love him?”
She was silent. For a minute. Then another minute passed. After several minutes had gone by, she was still silent. Finally, embarrassed and obviously
uncomfortable with her inability to express whatever she was thinking, she murmured apologetically to both of us, “I’m sorry. I mean, there are things.. but
I . . I just can’t think of them .. I just don’t know.” Then another several minutes of silence which I’m certain seemed to last an eternity to the Lion. However, being a Leo, and therefore nearly never suffering from a loss of words, he filled the empty air with a typical Leonine response. “Come on, Barbara, don’t be bashful. Why don’t you just admit the word is ‘lovable’?” Still silence from Scorpio. “That’s the word you’re groping for, isn’t it? Lovable? Or maybe the word ‘perfect’ describes me better?”
We laughed, nervously. That is, the Leo and I laughed. His Scorpio wife made a feeble attempt to grin, then excused herself and went into the kitchen to bring us more coffee. Now, even the Lion was silent. And I felt it best to remain silent too. The discomfort in the room was growing into a giant. Then, unexpectedly, out of the kitchen popped Barbara, a tea towel in her hand and a smile on her face.
“I just thought of the word,” she announced, clearly relieved. “It’s ‘dependability.’ He’s so.. trustworthy. I can always count on him to keep his word when he possibly can. He never lets me or anyone else down. Once he’s given a promise, I know he’ll try hard to keep it. He’s really the most trustworthy person I’ve ever met. I guess .. . well, I guess dependable is the one word I would
Such a waterfall of words from a woman who had, minutes before, appeared to be stricken dumb. And such an expression of happiness on her face from the peace of being, at last, able to express her true feelings.
As Leos will do when they’re pleased, but a little shy, the Lion grinned ear to ear, and remarked playfully, “Don’t you want to add the words ‘lovable’ and ‘perfect’ to the word ‘dependable’?” He was rolling in catnip, floating in visible ecstasy. His mate had finally fed him a King-size portion of the food for which he was so often starved – a sincere compliment. For the next half hour there was so much affection billowing over around them, I excused myself and left early, leaving them in privacy with their new understanding of one another, once again convinced of the miracles astrology can create, when it’s used as it was meant to be.
It’s true that the silences of a Scorpio woman can frustrate and infuriate a Leo man. He’s more gregarious about his pleasures and displeasures; he needs to be verbal concerning his happiness and his sorrows. It never occurs to a Leo male that his Pluto-ruled woman is driven into her silences by his constant dominance and airs of superiority – nor does it occur to Leo that he possesses the same trait he objects to in his Scorpio mate. With him, it’s called pouting. The Scorpio woman is deeply hurt and angered by the Lion’s insufferable arrogance, yet she seldom realizes that all it takes to halt it is the effort it would cost her to give him the gift of a sincere compliment (Scorpios can give no other kind) in the middle of one of his supercilious lectures to her.. and he’ll purr with delight, forgetting altogether what he was roaring about. All it takes is a little introspection. Granted, Scorpio is more capable of introspection than Leo, but Leo is more forgiving than Scorpio, so it balances out rather nicely.. or it could, if they would allow it.
The sexual relationship between a Lion and a female Scorpion can be somewhat intermittent. It can blow hot and cold, by turns. She finds his warm strength erotic, in a cozy, affectionate way. He finds her secret, silent intensity of passion a sensuous challenge to his impulsive romantic nature. With some mutual consideration, like a little more verbal expression from her, and a little more sensitive consideration from him, the yearning they felt when they first met and loved will remain. But too many silences from her, too much arrogance from him, and the initial powerful chemistry between them may trickle into a mild, bored affection, with true mating occurring less and less frequently all the way to frigidity in her and impotence in him. The Scorpio woman already knows what every Leo man needs to learn – that fulfilling sex does not initiate in the body’s fleeting urges. It begins in the mind and heart, then gradually grows into the kind of physical desire which results in emotional peace and contentment.
One thing that often causes sexual coldness between these two is her sometimes intense resentment of his admiring entourage of females, who often follow the Leo male around like worshiping, love-sick puppies .. and his refusal to banish them with an icy rebuff. He actually enjoys it, can you imagine that? Yes. I can imagine it. The Lion needs to roll in the catnip of adoration now and then, but it will seldom lead to unfaithfulness – never, in fact, if his mate fights this threat with the most powerful weapon of all.. the awesome force of LOVE. The Leo man who receives enough adoration and excitement at home, in his own lair, will never wander far from the jungle pride he shares with his mate. That’s how you separate the women from the girls. She should laugh it off. That’s what he does, inwardly, if the truth were known. Leo’s deepest instinct is loyalty. It takes a lot of unreasonable jealousy to change his basic nature. Logical deduction may lead the Scorpio woman to believe that if her Lion’s feminine entourage admire and desire him, he must equally admire or desire them. But “logical deduction” is sometimes the most misleading of all the siblings of lies. Out of hurt and outrage, justified or not, the Scorpio woman is very likely to initiate an act of infidelity herself. She should consider such a drastic reaction to the frustration of their problems very carefully, for Leo will not be able to forgive physical disloyalty, whatever he may have done or not done to deserve it.
Yes, I know it’s selfish, but that’s the way Leos are. With extremely rare exceptions, should a Lion discover his mate has betrayed him with another man, it will be the end. And Leo should know this: It takes a lot of what he may not recognize in himself as arrogance, a lot of insensitivity to her deepest needs, to drive this woman into the arms of someone else. If it should ever happen, he should ask himself what it was she so intensely needed that he perhaps unconsciously denied her. It may have been a child .. . a career .. . or just a little extra compassion and gentle understanding of her feelings .. . a little more tenderness
When the gulf of pride and pouting grows so wide both are reluctant to risk leaping over it, it’s nearly always she who must make the first move. However wistfully he may yearn for reconciliation, a Lion finds it painful to humble himself with an apology. He fears such admission of regret might cause him to lose control of his home, his woman – and worse, his self-image of superiority and command. And so, struggling to preserve his identity as ruler of the relationship, he’ll often shift the blame to her undeserving shoulders, desperately hoping she’ll accept it, so he can majestically forgive her – and everything can be sunny and warm between them again. Sadly, many Leo men know no other path to a renewal of harmony. Initiating the making up will be easier for his Scorpio woman if she’ll remember the lyrics to the song sung to Anna in The King and I by the Monarch’s Number One Wife, when she was trying to make Anna see him as he really was.
He will not always say – what you would have him say,
But now and then he’ll say .. something wonderful!
The thoughtless things he’ll do – will hurt and worry you,
Then all at once he’ll do … something wonderful!
He has a thousand dreams that won’t come true,
You know that he believes in them, and that’s enough for you.
You’ll always go along – defend him when he’s wrong,
And tell him when he’s strong – he is WONDERFUL!
He’ll always need your love, and so he’ll get your love.
A man who needs your love .. can be .. wonderful.
There will always be those sunlit moments when he’ll say or do something wonderful to make up for his occasional thoughtlessness and arrogance. As for you, Leo, Your Highness, you might try memorizing a few lines from another song:
She may be weary – women do get weary
Wearing the same shabby dress;
When she is weary, try a little tenderness.
She may be waiting, just anticipating
Things she may never possess;
While she is waiting, try a little tenderness.
This is not an ordinary, but an extraordinary woman, whose feelings run deep. To a Lion, any degree of affection is preferable to silence and loneliness; yet the Scorpio woman would rather be alone than be given only half a heart to share. And therein lies the vast ocean of difference between those controlled by the square of the 4-10 Sun Sign Pattern, an ocean which can only be spanned by a bridge of love.