Leo Woman and Pisces Man Compatibility
Slightly was the first to speak. “This is no bird,” he said in
a scared voice. “I think it must be a lady.”
You’d think the icy, aloof, and regal attitudes of the typical Lioness toward strangers who seek her hand or heart would frighten a male Pisces Fish away before this girl had a chance to hook him. You would think so. But if you did, you’d be forgetting that there’s another side to this lady. A Leo woman can, when it pleases her to do so, exude a bright and playful disposition, as warm and benevolent as her ruler, the Sun. Besides, not all Pisceans have fits of the trembles when they’re in the presence of astrological royalty. There are, if you recall from other chapters of this book, also the Whale-type Pisceans, who gobble people – symbolically, of course. A Whale will never succeed in gobbling a Lioness.But neither will he necessarily quake and shake when she freezes his initial advance.
Still, the majority of male Fish are not Whales, and they do need some help when they’ve been hooked by this female, so we’ll look at the situation from their point of view. The Whale types can, assumedly, take care of themselves. Let’s consider the problem of the typical or average Pisces man when he’s involved with a Leo woman. Scary. It’s downright scary. There’s an air of command and vitality about a healthy, beautiful Lioness that almost breathes a challenge of courage to all who would woo and win her. “See that you’re worthy enough to deserve me” is the silent message from the tawny one.
The Fish shouldn’t allow that to stop him. It’s just her queenly way of putting down and putting off any peasants who have an eye on the throne. The way to cope with it is to prove to her he’s not a peasant. How does one go about proving such a thing to this lady?
Well, to begin with, he can royally wine and dine her, at the very best restaurants, and present her with gifts – if not expensive, then at least reflecting good taste. A bottle of cheap wine, a rhinestone bracelet from Woolworth’s that turns her arm green, or one of those plastic dolls you win at a carnival are not gifts she considers to be in good taste. Try Tiffany’s, on Fifth Avenue in Manhattan. You don’t need a fortune to pick up a token for a Lioness at Tiffany’s. Don’t let the name frighten you. They have some interesting items, beginning at ten or twenty dollars, and the Fish can probably manage to scour up that much cash to impress the woman he’s afraid he’s beginning to love. Besides, all that matters is the box. If it says Tiffany’s, she’ll smile her brightest smile, and graciously thank him, with a sunlit, summer promise in her eyes.
There are other gifts in equally good taste he can give her. A homeless kitten. A framed photo of himself, at age six. A bunch of daisies, with one golden rose in the center, representing her. Taste is not necessarily associated with money, but with an educated heart and a sensitive soul. Whatever he gives her, it shouldn’t be given on an ordinary holiday or occasion. Birthdays, Christmas, and so forth, are out. That’s what all the peasants do.
He should accompany his gift with a card that says, simply…. “Because it’s Thursday morning, and I love you”….or tell her it’s to celebrate the hour and minute they met, a year ago (or five years, or however many)… perhaps to observe Guy Fawkes Day (but he’d better stop in the library and look that one up, because she’ll frown if he can’t tell who Guy Fawkes is, and no – he didn’t fight Joe Louis in Chicago) best of all, to commemorate the coronation of Queen Elizabeth. She’ll like that. It’s associated with royalty, and she’ll think it’s fun. A Lioness has a warm and wonderful sense of humor. (But in good taste, don’t forget. No Puns. And no off-color stories, please.) She’s sentimental, and all these little things matter to her. He shouldn’t ignore her need for the intellectual, the romantic, and the unusual. This lady is a lady, quite literally, and she’s bored to tears by the mundane, the ordinary, the commonplace, and the unmarvelous.
There’are many ways he can prove to her he’s not a peasant, that he is of the nobility, or ruling class, therefore deserves her attention and respect. He can display his natural Neptunian talent (or at least taste for) music or poetry, which she’ll find utterly delightful. He can remember that true royalty never winces, always retains dignity in the most upsetting situations. But most of all, he must never wound her regal nature by speaking or behaving in a rude, coarse, disrespectful manner, not even when she deserves a good verbal and physical spanking – which will be frequently.
At such times he should go ahead and give her what she deserves, not rudely or coarsely – but like a gentleman. It’s really rather easy, once you get the hang of it – the difference, I mean, between the lower class and the ruling class. Only a nobleman who has already been knighted by the Queen would dare put her in her place by spanking her bottom when she misbehaves, you see? You don’t? Well, let me say it this way: A Leo woman will never submit to a man who is not her peer, who cannot control her when she needs it. Neither will she fall in love for keeps with a man for whom she has to apologize to her friends, who humiliates and wounds her, either publicly or privately. Indisputably, the handling and training of nobility is an art.
Actually, a Pisces man has a fair chance of getting the hang of it more quickly than the male of most other Sun Signs, not because he has delusions of grandeur himself, but because the Fish has never been born who doesn’t possess an uncanny ability to charm the wildest beast with a combination of gentle compassion and passive resistance. Besides all that, he’s a jolly good listener, and with this woman, his sensitive and sympathetic ears will be worked overtime. The Leo girl does enjoy an audience, and a Neptune male is at his lovable best playing that role, with a genuine fascination for the plays of human nature acted out on the stages of Life and Love.
If he does occasionally pull a faux pas with Her Highness, he needn’t tremble and await execution. Truly, one of the loveliest shades in the brilliant rainbow aura of a Leo girl is her ability to graciously forgive those who sincerely beg her pardon. She has such a sunny nature and exudes such warmth that, except for a periodic touch of megalomania (the psychiatric term for a swollen ego), it makes people happy just to be around her. If she gets the respect she demands – and quite often deserves – her disposition blooms into a bright generosity that’s impossible to resist, like a full-blown, fragrant rose. But she has a way of freezing in silent pride if a lover or husband (or anyone else for that matter) tries to dictate to her. Not that the Fish will try that too frequently anyway. This man is more likely to court his Leonine Queen with charm, quick wit, intelligence, and an amazingly intuitive grasp of her moods.
A Leo woman sometimes makes really impossible demands of love in her desire to mate only with a man who is subservient to her every whim, yet also possessed of sufficient intellect and self-assurance to be her equal at all times. That’s quite a duality trick, but the Neptune-ruled man has a pretty good chance of performing it successfully. Most Fish don’t mind the surface appearance of serving, so his Piscean self-effacement helps him rather than hinders him – and as for being her equal, his telepathic talents and myriad facets of intelligence (gathered karmically from the other eleven Sun Signs) are easily sparkling enough to attract the attention and admiration of the Lioness, causing her to believe she’s found that perfect blend she’s looking for in a man – for a while at least.
Once the first flush and blush of romance has paled a bit, they’ll both begin to notice the difference between their individual elements of Fire and Water, which, as you know from basic physics, do not blend without danger of extinction to one or the other, or both. His watery nature requires much time for reflection in solitude, so he finds the extroversion of Leo sometimes abrasive to his delicate tuning. Her fiery nature is more gregarious, and requires lots of dramatic fights so they can kiss and make up, therefore his refusal to be sufficiently eloquent when she’s fired up can be abrasive to her own harmonics. His retreat into sulkiness when his spirit has been smashed is matched only by her proud pouting when she’s been thwarted or ignored.
One of the greatest causes of conflict will be his natural reluctance to share every private thought with her. Leo wants to know everything, and who can keep secrets from the Queen? He can. And frequently does. Then she’ll rage or freeze, one or the other, until he gives up and gives in. The Fish should beware of giving the Lioness too much rope, or she’ll hang him with it for sure. The way to her heart regarding sexual harmony is – back to the music and poetry again. Cleopatra, who was indisputably a Lioness, was thus wooed and won by both Caesar and Marc Antony. (“If music be the food of love – play on.”) Lionesses like to be softly serenaded, even if only symbolically. Like the Temptress of the Nile, the Leo woman loves perfumed oils and all the trappings of romance – the more exotic, the better. Let this be a hint to the Pisces man: She’ll never find true fulfillment in a casual encounter. The typical Leo female is seldom promiscuous once she’s selected a worthy prince consort. As monogamy-minded as the Nature lioness, she’ll devour an unfaithful husband or lover
with a roar of jealousy. She herself adores and needs to be worshiped and admired by every male in sight, but she’ll claim that’s not the same thing. She has regal privileges, you see. A Leo woman is capable of seducing a man away from another woman as her royal right, and then is wounded if he becomes as untrue to her as she caused him to be to his former mate. The shoe pinches when it’s on the other foot. Let the man she loves indulge in so much as a harmless wink at her best friend and he will live to regret it. (Of course, being an Aries Fire Sign myself, I don’t see how even a wink can be harmless, but…) This woman (Leo, that is) will not tolerate flirting of even the lightest intent. He owes her ALL his attention. It’s sad, but very true, that the mildest sort of hurt of this kind will often cause the typical Lioness to be unable to respond to her partner in the physical expression of love.
Jealousy can turn her into a cold goddess instantly, with no warmth left to give, either sexually or emotionally. On the other hand, too many arrogant lectures from Her Majesty can create the same sort of physical unresponsiveness in the male Fish, making their intimate sexual life together shift from warm to frigid, and back again. He should be grateful for the rare loyalty his Leo woman will bestow upon him if he deserves it, and try not to court her displeasure, her deep unhappiness, by being anything but honest and loyal in return. There may be something missing in their sexual vibration. He could be too ethereal, mystical, and intangible, or too elusive in his lovemaking to completely satisfy the jungle female in her. She could be so demanding and insistent in her need for overwhelming passion and continual romantic servitude that he becomes even more detached, ethereal, mystical, intangible, and elusive during their lovemaking – and so it goes – a circular problem – with no beginning, and no end. Who really starts it? Who knows? With these two, there is at least a hint. This is a 6-8 Sun Sign vibration, and with the Leo woman and the Pisces man, that means he represents to her the eighth astrological house of sexual magnetism, mystery, and deep spiritual matters (barring any possible mutual planetary afflictions in their birth charts, which might dilute the powerful sexual tug – never remove it, just dilute it).
She represents to him the sixth astrological house of service (among other things). It could quite possibly be that the Fish is expecting too much devoted “service” from this proud woman, and a Lioness will not remain unduly subservient for long, without roaring her discontent. They both should meditate on this. With a Sun-Moon and other planetary harmony in their mutual horoscopes, or a mutual Moon conjunction, all their tensions could dissolve into a lilting, lyrical, and lovely man-woman blending of the Sun and Neptune, causing their sexual union to be enriched by the delicacy, romance, and tenderness he brings to her, and by the warm affection and passion she brings to him.
Without such planetary help in their birth charts, she must be extremely careful not to allow the powerful Solar rays of her intense sexuality (and potential for frigidity) to either scorch or freeze all desire in this man – and he must be extremely careful not to allow the Neptunian dreaminess of his sexuality, and his lack of a total involvement in their lovemaking, to cool her sunny nature . . . and leave her feeling empty, as though she hadn’t been touched by love’s true depth .. . but only by a gentle breeze, that leaves barely a memory behind
The strongest, most fertile root of the women’s liberation movement is the one ignored in all the speeches – the emotional equality of men and women. This will be the final and lasting reward to both sexes, when the noisy parades are all over – that it’s a good thing for a man to possess some feminine qualities of sentiment, perception, and sensitivity – as it is for a woman to possess some masculine qualities of courage, directness, and independence. A very good thing. A divine and a holy thing
However, in a love relationship such as this one, where the female was born under a masculine Sun Sign, also ruled by the masculine Sun itself, giving her a double masculine influence – and the male was born under a feminine Sun Sign, ruled also by a feminine planet, Neptune, giving him a double feminine influence – conscious and continuous care must be given to retaining the emotional balance between the lovers.
Feminine is neither “sissy” nor “effeminate.” Yet, it’s possible for a double feminine-influenced Piscean male to project too much passivity. Likewise, masculine is neither “aggressive” nor “pushy.” Yet, it’s possible for a double masculine-influenced woman to project too much drive and force – and overbalance on the part of each.
The underlying, esoteric truth of faerie tales is seldom recognized, and if it were, astrology and faerie tales alone would negate the need for psychiatry. (Neptune men will find that logical.) For example (a vital example) “Goldilocks and the Three Bears” has a much deeper meaning than people suspect. The Lioness and the Fish (and all Sun Sign couples) should meditate on the lesson in that ancient fable. Papa Bear’s chair and bed were too hard (an overbalance of masculine forceful drive). Mama Bear’s chair and bed were too soft (an overbalance of feminine passivity). Papa Bear’s soup was too hot – Mama Bear’s soup too cold. But Baby Bear’s porridge, chair, and bed were .. . just right. The most effective love wisdom the stars can offer to this man and woman is for both of them to remember Baby Bear’s perfect balance of aggressiveness and passivity. To repeat once again the most important planetary counsel of all to these two: conscious and continuous care must be given to retaining a balanced emotional exchange.
It’s no good if the Lioness leans too heavy on the Papa Bear essence (although a little of it beautifully becomes her – and all women). It’s no good
when the male Fish leans too heavy on the Mama Bear essence (although a little of it handsomely becomes him – and all men). It may seem to be an insoluble problem between these two, yet it’s not at all, in any respect. It’s really so very simple. All both of them need to remember – is not to forget Goldilocks.
Variations of the same troubled love theme are heard in the symphonies of all seventy-eight Sun Sign combination lovers. The Goldilocks syndrome creates tension in love between a man and woman who are both “double masculineinfluenced,” just as it does between a man and woman who are both “double feminine-influenced.” The same problem exists between a double masculine man – and a double feminine woman (which may sound ideal, but actually creates the danger of sadism and masochism, respectively, in various degrees).
There is no “sexual solution” but one, and only one – the lesson of Baby Bear Balance. The challenge of loving a Leo woman, and being loved in return, will require all the knowledge of the human heart with which the Pisces man is blessed. One minute he’s fighting a tigress of emotional excess, who spits and hisses like an angry cat. Then, when she’s exhausted by her display of fireworks, she mysteriously transforms into a soft and gentle kitten, appealingly purring for his affection and a pat on the head for approval. The Lioness is a disconcerting and dazzling mixture of icy, regal dignity, and warm, happy-go-lucky fun and generosity. She can be annoyingly arrogant, yet intensely loyal. She tosses her splendid Lioness mane with a healthy laugh, then dissolves into tears of injured pride .. . all with a slinky, feline grace.
The Fish who’s been hooked by her glamorous, cool superiority won’t be surprised to learn that the Cat was an object of worship to ancient cultures. There may be times when he’ll think he’s back among the pyramids, kneeling at the shrine of the Cat-headed goddess, created by Egyptians because they identified the lines of a cat with those of a woman – and they were wise to do so. The Lioness is not only all women – she’s also all woman. (Think about it.) And she will rule the “pride” if he so much as allows her an inch of control.
The challenge of loving a Pisces man, and being loved in return, will likewise require all the warmth and sunlit wisdom with which the Leo woman is blessed. He’ll show his own brand of Neptune temper and icy detachment if she insists on prying into his secrets or his solitude. He’s gentle, and he serves willingly, with beautiful humility of spirit, if he’s not consumed by her raging jealousies, and continual, scolding lectures. This will cause him to swim away, in search of a peasant, after deciding that royalty is too rich for his blood.
These two lovers should learn a mutual lesson from the sad and unfortunate failure of another Leo-Pisces couple to overcome the challenges of their difficulties and differences – Britain’s Princess Margaret Rose, a typical Queen Lioness, and her husband, Antony Armstrong-Jones, Earl of Snowdon, a Pisces man.
To begin with, a Leo Princess finds it impossible to forgive her noble family for thwarting her first love, which in this case, was Lioness Margaret Rose’s fated romance with Peter Townsend. Yet, it could still have had a happy ending in her marriage to the handsome Fish, “Tony.” He’s a sensitive Piscean artist with a camera, a stroke of good fortune that played no small part in their initial attraction, since Leo women adore photography, and adore even more posing for pictures themselves. But this Fish photographed a variety of models, other than his wife in her tiara. That was the beginning of trouble with a jealous Leo woman, who must always even such a hurtful romantic score. Also, his work took him on many a solo trip ’round the world, so he couldn’t attend all the majestic, royal affairs with her.
Although a space in togetherness is helpful and advisable for many couples, not so with the Leo woman and the Pisces man. It somehow only stretches into disinterest. The Leo-Pisces lovers or mates reading this should take a hint from the unhappy ending of a true royal faerie-tale romance, and not imitate the same mistakes in their own relationship. No separate vacations for these two. Because the Lioness possesses so much false pride, and her Neptune man so little, he can gently soothe her frequently injured feelings. Because the Fish possesses so little confidence, and his Leo woman much, she can tenderly calm his secret, inner fears. That’s the very best way to love – exchanging strengths with one another – as long as both share a compassion for each other’s weaknesses as well.