Libra Man and Capricorn Woman Compatibility
On cover image- Famous Libra Man and Capricorn Woman – Sting and Trudie Styler
All he thinks he has a right to, when he comes to you to be
yours, is fairness. After you have been unfair to him, he
will love you again, but he will never afterwards be quite
the same boy.
Oddly and unfortunately or fortunately (I really can’t decide which, nor can Libra) this otherwise tense and challenging 4-10 Sun Sign Pattern-influenced relationship is blessed with an inherent positive-plus factor the Libra man and his Goat Girl may not utilize. Taking into account, naturally, the normal number of exceptions that prove the rule, a Libra man is one of the six Sun Sign males -the others being Aries, Gemini, Sag, Aquarius and Pisces – who (if he’s not one of the rare, perverse exceptions) is likely to agree with many, if not all, of the platforms proposed by the Women’s Liberation Movement. Why not? He’s fair. He’s just. He’s tolerant and adaptable to change, whether within his own personal sphere, or concerning the sweeping changes of social reform. He’s thoughtful, logical, reasonable – and pleasantly willing to listen to all opposing sides, including the opposing sides of the Aquarian Age male-female conflict.
On the other swing of the pendulum, the Capricorn woman was born under a Cardinal Sign of leadership (as was he) and she must lead something or someone at sometime – somewhere. She enjoys being in charge of her own life, and of everything and everyone else she can manage to wisely guide and discipline with the “grandma knows best” attitude that hangs over her (which began hanging around her aura when she was approximately six years old). She’s marvelously qualified as a Capitalized Career Woman, makes a splendid executive, and is capable of keeping everything serenely functioning in a down-to-earth, sensible way, whether it’s the heartbreaking and backbreaking task of holding together a fatherless home in a ghetto, and being the great comforting rock of stability and self-preservation for the whole neighborhood – presiding over an antique boutique, a service station (some Goat Girls do) or a trucking company – laying down the rules for a brokerage firm, running a car wash or a finishing school for sheep dogs. With her well-bred voice and manner (whatever her actual background) and her cool common sense, she’s exquisitely equipped to be a successful C.W.
Now consider her Libra man – more likely than not to be liberal in his view of his lady working or pursuing a career. Wouldn’t you say that was a positive plus factor between them? The reason they don’t always take advantage of it is probably more her fault than his.
Although she needs to lead – being, as noted earlier, Cardinal, like Libra – the typical Capricorn shrinks from the idea of leading out front, in a showy way. The Goat (male or female) prefers to be the “spider” in the corner, who pulls the strings behind-the-scenes and makes it all happen, with no fuss and fanfare. It’s difficult for the Goat Girl to find the sort of leadership niche she seeks in the business world. Things haven’t yet progressed far enough to create the ideal situation. With extremely rare and fortunate exceptions, the Capricorn woman usually finds but two choices open to her in the success sweepstakes: (a) an underling job at low pay, because she’s a female – or (b) a position worthy of her abilities, which can only be attained by advancing herself aggressively and receiving lots of attention from everyone (like Business Week and IRS) once she’s arrived. Since she refuses to meekly follow orders, to be a small cog in the wheel, and because a pinnacle of power that demands the sacrifice of her personal privacy isn’t the kind of leadership she’s after – the typical, rather shy Goat Girl either finds her place as a professional in the arts, or some similar “loner” type endeavor – or decides to become the “spider in the corner” at home, contentedly fulfilling her Sun Sign ambitions by weaving her webs of strategy unobtrusively, in the background, “leading” and directing her husband, children, relatives and friends in such a subtle way, they hardly suspect it.
So here they are. A Libra man who’s cheerfully willing to have his lady work outside the home – and a Capricorn woman who would just as soon make him her career. You know that truism about “behind every successful man there’s a woman”? It’s often a Capricorn woman. Goats don’t waste their valuable time on anything short of success. If this ambitious woman guides her man, she certainly isn’t going to guide him toward failure. Whatever she’s helping him achieve, her eye is on the most fruitful result. The thing is, he might prefer her to follow her Cardinal instincts outside, rather than inside the home. He adores being the man to whom she’s loyal and devoted, the man she loves and cherishes and protects (against himself), but he may rebel at being made her “lifetime career.”
He is of the Air Element, and the first lesson an “earthy” female must learn about the “airy” man she loves (especially the Cardinal Air Sign) is that “air” seeks freedom of movement, and simply cannot bear restriction – or it becomes stale. Not only that, it will escape the instant the lid is removed. Leave an Air Sign man alone to drift and to dream, to roam mentally, following the breezes of his inclinations, and he’ll happily remain more or less nearby. Try to bottle him or box him in, and he’ll become “windy,” argumentive and resentful – easily stirred into a tornado or hurricane of anger. Then he’ll storm away.
If she’s genuinely contrite and truly wants him back, he might return. She’ll have to be fair enough to acknowledge her mistake and ask for his understanding of her side of the situation. No, let’s change that. Acknowledging her mistake and asking for his understanding is fine. He’ll probably respond like an absolute angel. But it may not be wise to try to get him to see her side of the disagreement – openly, that is. It’s always a mistake with a Libran to make a point of defending a particular side of any question, if you expect compromise from him. Enumerate all the positive factors of one side, and this man will instinctively use all his mental energy, deductive reasoning and brilliant logic (with which he is, please believe, more than amply endowed) in making it all balance out even on his Scales by eloquently defending the opposite side – whatever the opposite side may be.
Never mind which side he thought his sympathies were with before. He’ll change his mind (even a long-held conviction) just to win an interesting debate. Something about the challenge of an argument seems to hypnotize him, until he actually forgets where he stood before the “discussion” began.
This is Libra’s Achilles Heel, and few of them realize it. I personally think it’s mean and unfair to take advantage of the poor man’s Sun Sign weakness, but there could be extenuating circumstances when the end might justify the means. In such a circumstance, the wise Goat Girl will take his side all the way, make it clear that she’s been completely wrong, recite a sort of monologue (difficult for Cappy, but she can practice by observing his own verbal finesse) containing all the reasons he is right and she is woefully wrong, giving herself not the slightest edge, making it all seem obviously lopsided and unfair to her. It will work like a charm.
He’ll be helpless, unable to resist his strong Sun Sign “judgeship” instincts, and begin to point out to her all the flaws in her argument, show her where she’s being unfair to herself, offer to take at least half the blame – and end up just where she wants him – making a spoken declaration of his comprehension of the things he’s done to hurt and worry her, which caused her to behave as possessively and poutingly as she did. He’ll barely know what happened, except that, somehow, he has honestly begun to see where maybe she was justified in her feelings. Soon he’ll become his normal sweet and sentimental self again, ask for forgiveness and coax her to have faith in a new beginning. Then he’ll smile his outrageous Venus smile. And it happens.
The resurrected rush of remembered trembling, the familiar yearning. And sorrow, too. From comprehending the pain caused, that wasn’t meant to hurt, but was a reaction to hurt – on both sides. Sorrow is always followed by compassion, the overwhelming need to forgive and to be forgiven. A Capricorn woman can resist (if she chooses) any temptation ever conjured to test the human soul. But not even she can long hold out against the blinding brightness of the Libra smile. She’ll answer it with her own little shy Goat grin, her eyes and her heart will soften simultaneously and roses will bloom again in January’s snow.
She may not, however, melt into his arms immediately, if the snowflakes are still falling inside her. He’ll have to use all his tenderness and charm to reverse her frigid withdrawal, after he’s caused her to feel rejected. Just as she’ll have to use all her gentle persuasion to heal the wounds in his optimistic nature she inflicted by her cold, disapproving manner. But this woman can be surprisingly gentle when she trusts the man with whom she’s making love. Their sexual harmony will be at times elusive. Nevertheless, it’s attainable when both of them unselfishly seek to know what it is the other needs, recognize the differences of desire, and honestly try to bridge them .. . softening the traits that offend and imitating the qualities in each other they individually admire.
Saturn’s restrictive influence can make her appear too reserved and unresponsive to the romantic and verbally expressive Libra man. Because her approach to sex is one of slow sensuality, his light and airy seeming detachment can leave her feeling empty and yearning for a more tangible passion. But if he tries, he’ll be gladdened and amazed by the unsuspected affection and sentiment buried within her, needing only his patience to bring it out. And she’ll discover there’s much she can teach this man about the deep earthiness of physical union and sexual intimacy that he’s touchingly anxious to learn from her. Each of them will benefit by trying to be more like the other. She must try to be more expressive; he must try to be more concentrated during their lovemaking. Then all will be well.
A Libra man contains a bottomless well of sentiment, yet he may not be sensitive enough to his Capricorn woman’s silent secrets. Sometimes his logic and clear thinking get in the way of his understanding of the human heart. He’s fair and sympathetic, but often in such a mental way that he neglects to comprehend the motives behind what she’s doing or saying.
Libra isn’t noted for a perception of human emotions – more for analyzing the result of emotions, their outward manifestation in words and deeds. For all his airy refinement and artistic leanings, his talent for “romance,” he can appear “cool” to the Goat Girl, whose own nature is richer with various shades and tones and levels of the heights and depths of all human longings.
They are both moody. He swings from high to low, from cheerful and sweet to cranky and domineering, several times in the course of a week, or even a single day. Her moods are neither as swift nor as multiple. Saturn’s depression clouds gather more gradually, over an extended period of time, disturb her more seriously – and last much longer.
She needs his rainbows of hope. He needs her haven of dependability. And someone once wrote that being needed is as good as being loved. Sometimes . . . even better. Because there’s a kind of love that blooms too quickly, like a fragile blossom, briefly beautiful, but easily bruised by frost, unable to withstand the first wind of a storm. “Needing” seeds a sturdy, more familiar kind of love, that grows quietly into a strong tree, with roots that remain in Earth, branches that offer shade .. . leaves that sing in the wind a lyric lovely enough for Libra, yet practical enough for Capricorn. Trees don’t grow overnight. They must be nurtured throughout the patient waiting of many seasons. But they last. Trees are forever. Libra and Capricorn might meditate on the mysterious truth hidden in Tagore’s words, that the faith waiting in the heart of a seed … promises a miracle of life which it cannot prove.”