Scorpio Woman and Sagittarius Man Compatibility
On cover image- Famous Scorpio Woman and Sagittarius Man – Kate Capshaw and Steven Spielberg
Some of the greatest heroes have confessed that just before
they fell to, they had a sinking. Had it been so with Peter
at that moment I would admit it But Peter had no
sinking, he had one feeling only, gladness; and he gnashed
his pretty teeth with joy
Scorpio is Fixed, Sagittarius is Mutable, and Fixed and Mutable are words with totally different meanings. Scorpio is ruled by the Planet Pluto, Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter. Pluto is secretive and subtle, Jupiter is open and expansive.
Scorpio’s a Water Sign; Sag is a Fire Sign; and water and fire don’t mix easily without some sort of catalyst, such as a great deal of patience or tolerance. Do you think any of these difficulties bother the Archer who’s in love with a Scorpio girl? Of course not. These are merely astrological challenges, and Sagittarius eats challenges for breakfast.
The larger the challenge, the brighter the fire that flames in his Jupiter eye. The challenge of a Scorpio female, with its scope, its complications, its intrigue, its depth of mystery or its danger, will surely not discourage the Archer. It will fascinate him.
Because every Sagittarian male, at any given period of his life, is enthusiastically involved with a dog, a horse, a career, a hobby, a dream, a travel plan or a course of study (from religious philosophy to homeopathy or numerology), he’ll have lots of things to talk about as icebreakers when he meets a Scorpio girl and believe me, there’s always a substantial amount of ice to be broken in the initial phase of a relationship with any Scorpion.
Unlike many men, he won’t be put off or put down by her rather distant manner with strangers. It won’t put him off, because it excites him with the possibility of using his charm and persuasion and logic and cheeriness to raise her cool temperature a number of degrees – and it won’t put him down because it’s next to impossible for Sagittarians to suffer from the pain of a put-down.
Mostly for the reason that they don’t recognize insults as such. They think you’re just being honest, the way they like to be, and who are they to object to the same sort of honest observations and remarks from others as they pass out themselves? – which is uncommonly decent of them, and I’d say they have a very good point there, wouldn’t you? It’s difficult to puncture the Sagittarian’s Jupiter balloons, filled with the helium of optimism, bless their sunny hearts (and curse their brutal frankness). Unless he suffers from a Scorpio, Capricorn, Taurus, Cancer or Virgo Moon or Ascendent, Sag doesn’t often brood very long over a disappointment or a criticism. Normally, the Archer will simply shrug, toss trouble over his shoulder and wait for things to be better. The weather report may say rain, snow and high winds today, but it’s sure to be sunny, fair and warm tomorrow. Each sunrise brings to him a new dawn of impossible dreams and an unexpected solution to old problems.
Admittedly, it’s a philosophy the Scorpio woman could imitate with great benefit. Let’s change “admittedly” to “definitely.” If she hears a weather forecast for fair weather, she tends to secretly suspect that the weatherman is deliberately trying to trick her into setting out on a hike just so he can laugh at her when she gets caught in a downpour, and her potato salad gets drenched. Huma
n nature is like that, she tells herself silently. A person can’t be too careful.
You can’t always trust people to be as they appear to be, or to keep the promises they make. You can see how her worldly-wise air and suspicious nature may occasionally clash with the auric colors of the Archer’s naivete and blind trust.
She’s wrong to suspect this man of being anything other than what he appears to be. Oh, he may symbolically smear on a little greasepaint, now and then, wear a putty nose, dress up like a clown or imagine he’s playing some part like Hamlet or Jimmy Stewart’s role in Harvey (he might even play the Rabbit – it’s possible), but these are just harmless acts he indulges in, because he has a touch of the theatre in his blood. Usually, he’s as delighted as a child when someone guesses the part he’s playing, like the game of Twenty Questions.
The sort of brief and temporary masque of tragedy-comedy the Archer wears for fleeting moments is easily detected by anyone of normal perception, especially by a Scorpio woman with her kind of penetrating perception. No, this man won’t deliberately or consciously fool her. God knows he won’t lie to her (in fact, she may wish he would once in a while, to soften the blows and dull the edges a little).
Whatever flaws he may possess which could cause her grief or worry will probably be painted in vivid colors on his features when she first meets him, or, at the worst, transparently hiding just beneath his cheery grin, and clearly visible to the Scorpio X-ray vision. The Sagittarian man’s faults and weak points, just like his virtues and strong points, almost seem to wave at you, after a few hours of conversation, saying: “Hi, there! Recognize me?,” completely unafraid that anyone might disapprove. How could anyone disapprove of a few minor faults? Doesn’t everybody have them, to some degree? Yes, everybody does have them, to some degree. Thanks to Sag, we are all aware of this great truth.
If humanity had not been graced (graced? ) with the presence of Sagittarians (and Virgos), we would still be blissfully ignorant, for the most part, that we all fall a little short of the angels, now and then. One of the Archer’s flaws that may wave “Hi!” to the Scorpio female when she first meets him, is that he is gregarious concerning girls. He likes females.
(He also likes males.) He likes people. He likes to play tennis with them, soccer, volleyball, basketball, football (either sex, he’s not picky or choosy) bounce ideas around with them – see plays and films with them – argue with them – question them, about all manner of things – and simply fraternize and co-exist with them. She may frown on the feminine angle, and she won’t be overjoyed about the masculine angle either, since it causes him to spend a greater amount of time away from her than she believes ideal. This woman is more than a little jealous and possessive (and suspicious), but she can’t hope to hold her Sagittarian man’s love unless she cheerfully and trustingly allows him to freely roam when the mood strikes him. She must give him lots of rope, but she can content herself with the certain knowledge that he’s sure to eventually hang himself with it. If this man is ever even tempted to be unfaithful, he’s not likely to hide behind the mulberry bush. He’ll come right out and tell her, if he’s a typical Sag, and give her the chance to win him back before he’s gone anywhere.
So, at least she has the comfort of knowing that “what she doesn’t know truly won’t hurt her.” As long as he comes home each night, kisses her on the nose each morning and makes no confessions, she can be confident that his heart is still hers – and every other part of him, including the most important part, his spirit
Usually, he’ll ask her to go along anyway. He’d much prefer to share his hegiras with a familiar companion than go to the trouble of looking up old friends or tramping around with strangers. If she adapts to his pup tents, road maps and flight schedules happily, he’d rather have her beside him than anyone else.
The compromise, of course, can’t be all one-sided. That’s not how compromise works. He’ll have to give a few inches too, if he wants to be the proud possessor of the deep devotion and thrilling mystery of a Scorpio woman. She greatly admires his honestly, but she is super-ultra-extra-sensitive, and his care less, thoughtless remarks will wound her unexpectedly vulnerable heart more than he’ll ever guess, because she keeps her deepest hurt to herself, inside, where it won’t show. She’ll bear her agony silently for a long, long time.
That’s the first Pluto stage. Next comes the second stage, when he can expect (but the trouble is, he won’t expect) the burning sting of Scorpio retaliation. It’s impossible to predict what form it will take, but whatever the form, he can be sure it will cause him to fumble a few arrows, and he might discover his bow of truth is badly bent for a while. The final stage, if he doesn’t wake up and learn to value this woman’s rare love, which doesn’t grow on every tree, and to appreciate her loyalty and multi-dimensional emotional challenges – is that she will leave him.
And she will not return. Once Scorpio makes a decision, it is seldom, if ever, retracted. Too much agony of soul has gone into the making of it for her to lightly disregard it. A Sagittarian man is, by nature, somewhat impulsive and careless, but to lose what might have been a lasting love is unforgivable carelessness. All it takes is a little more tenderness, a little more consideration of her feelings and the lost might be found.
Their sexual attitudes are very different, but not incompatible. His lovemaking is passionate, yet just as often touchingly and strangely naive and idealistic. Hers is all-consuming, concentrated – and at certain magical and memorable moments, deep-beyond-deep. It doesn’t take astrology to interpret this as a very real opportunity for two people to find a way to blend their physical needs into a deeply fulfilling experience together. One possible area of tension may be her tendency to look upon the act of love as a sacred thing – a silent thing. An unspoken shared ecstasy. He may, at some time, use the opportunity of their intimacy to say something that’s been on his mind, and it doesn’t occur to him that this could be the wrong moment to say it. However infrequently he makes this blunder, it’s too often. Then she may use their lovemaking closeness as a way to get even with him for something he’s said or done to hurt her earlier, by deliberately being cold and unresponsive to his embraces, behaving in such a passive manner that his fiery desire is completely extinguished by her Water Element’s ability to dampen his feelings and drown his emotions.
This is always a danger with a Fire Sign and a Water Sign, in all their areas of adjustment, not just the sexual but they should both be especially ashamed to treat one another any way but tenderly when their hearts and bodies are trying to manifest the miracle of Oneness that is love.
Because this man and woman, whether they realize it or not, are influenced by the 2-12 Sun Sign Pattern, she will sense he knows things she needs to learn, and he will be more tolerant of her different personality than one might expect him to be, because of his karmic memories of the Scorpio essence. If he uses this tolerance, which is there to be brought forth from the subconscious when he calls upon it – and she accepts gracefully that he has things to teach her (such as the foolishness of fear and suspicion, how these emotions bring about the manifestation of misery… and how excitement, enthusiasm and optimism are powerful affirmations with the ability to materialize dreams into reality) – they can make their relationship work smoothly and harmoniously. A great deal will depend on whether the Luminaries between their horoscopes are favorably or unfavorably aspected.
Money is a subject they should agree in the beginning to avoid like the medieval plague. Fortunately, if he’s a typical Sag, he won’t mind at all if she wants to develop her independence as a woman by following a career. It’s one of his more lovable traits – the willingness to grant the woman he loves freedom of expression, without smothering her individuality, which made him fall in love with her in the first place. But since he tends toward extravagance, and she tends toward economy, they should have separate checking accounts, and never question each other over income and outgo.
If he values her love, he’ll never be careless of her feelings. For all her gentleness, her apparent poise and calm, sometimes when she’s the most silent, the volcano within is the most active. Her secret emotions are powerful. They can incite her to raging anger or cool, premeditated revenge – yet they also make her capable of an enduring devotion that will launch him toward the higher heavens he dreams of reaching, if he cares enough to handle her heart tenderly and “speak no evil,” like the wise monkey.
As for her, she should treasure his open, honest love, not suffocate it with suspicion and accusation. She must never break his spirit, for this is where his sky-blue dreams, his golden optimism and his starry Jupiter idealism are first born – and later nurtured. When his spirit is broken, he can no longer aim his arrows straight, and he becomes a lost, unhappy Robin Hood, wandering Sherwood Forest without a vision to his name. What a sad thought. Would Maid Marian have so unkindly treated her brave, wistful Archer? Of course not.