Taurus Man and Cancer Woman Compatibility
“She wants me to unbar the window,” thought Peter, “but I
won’t, not I.”
He peeped again, and the tears were still there, or another
two had taken their place.
Imagine you are a huge rock, sitting high on top of a mountain. Nothing frightens you, or moves you. You’re so tough, the storms of thousands of years haven’t even scratched your surface, though they’ve worn away lesser rocks into helpless pebbles. Then one chilly day, an apparently harmless drop of water brightly splashes on you, and trickles its way into a deep crack in your center, which has been there since you were born, but has been overlooked by the rains and winds until now. What will you do?
You will do nothing. You, who have stood up against centuries of floods and tornados, have nothing to fear from one tiny drop of water. The next day, the thermometer drops to zero, and the drop of water freezes in your center. The freezing causes it to expand, and the expansion hurts you. Since nothing has ever before been able to weaken your strength, how do you feel about a drop of water which is expanding inside you, and threatening to crack you in two? A quiet little meditation like that will throw a great illumination on what it’s like to be an earthy, invulnerable Taurus man in love with a watery, gentle and sometimes Looney Moon Maiden. It can shake him to his foundations. But it’s too late. She’s already penetrated the secret place no one else has ever quite reached – his heart. Since a Bull’s heart is as strong as both his will and his back, he probably won’t break in half. But he’ll never again be the same, once this girl has enticed him to run along the beach under a midnight sky, in the zigzag directions of the Crab, crying and laughing – and feeling. Taurus knows all about touching, but feeling is a slightly different word. She’ll teach him all its meanings and synonyms.
An occasional Cancerian girl will claim she’s not typical of her Sun Sign because – “I don’t like to cook, I don’t want children, and I hate staying home.” Don’t let her fool you, like she’s fooling herself. The reason she’s scooting around in those Crab-like sideways patterns is because she hasn’t found the man she secretly yearns for, the one who will protect her and wrap her up in thick blankets of devotion. She may inwardly love babies and cooking and homemaking, but she’s not going to stand over a hot oven or rock a cradle for just any male. Until he materializes out of her moonlight dreams, she’ll cover up her tender maternal feelings and sentimental femininity with ambition for financial security, a successful career and public attention, sprinkling jokes everywhere she goes, punctuated with a crazy Looney Bird giggle, that says (or tries to say), “I don’t care!” But if you listen to the hidden chords, her Lunar laugh is whispering a wistful message: “I’m lonely and frightened and sad – don’t dreams ever come true?”
Yes, they do. If you believe in them. Emphatically and irrevocably, they do. The formula is so deceptively simple only a very few people ever discover its truth. The Galilean said it this way: “Whatsoever things ye desire, pray as if ye had already received them, and ye shall have them.” That’s really all there is to it. If you truly want it, “it’s no longer a dream.” What you image shall come into being without a shadow of a doubt, the time element depending entirely upon the intensity of the image. However, the Cancerian girl is inclined to pray for things, not “as if she had already received them,” but as if Fate had no intention of ever giving them to her. Therefore, Fate doesn’t. It’s simply a matter of reversing the vibrations she sends out from Negative to Positive.
The Taurus man is a slow starter in romance. Though he has an enormous capacity for love, it doesn’t burst into verbal or physical commitment overnight. Once it does blossom, however, it flowers beautifully, and usually permanently. Permanence is something the Moon Maiden needs, for all her whimsical emotional wanderlust. Like her, this man will not yield his complete self until the right woman arrives on the scene. He’ll take his good old time deciding, but his surrender, when it comes, is often instant, and his fidelity is eternal – if he isn’t pushed beyond great endurance by the incorrigible behavior of his partner.
Most Taurus men (not all, but most) don’t experience love in its total sexual and emotional fullness until they’re out of their teens (or even years later than that), long after their buddies have chalked up scores of “conquests,” livein affairs and a few marriages. But never forget that the Bull is enormously capable of making up for lost time, and the depth and intensity of his love is well worth waiting for. She can console herself with the thought that, while he doesn’t break down easily, neither will he want to break up quickly. That trait will certainly appeal to the girl Crab, who is also slow to take hold – and even slower to let go – of anything. Like raveled shawls, broken umbrellas, cracked mirrors, used doggy bags, empty lipstick tubes, the pink ribbon from her old baby bonnet, lidless bottles and jars, bottle and jarless lids, half pieces of curtain rods, newspapers with all the clippings already clipped, outdated redemption coupons, sharpened-all-the-way-down pencils with only a nub eraser left, and old lovers (unless she has an Aquarian or Gemini Ascendent or Moon Sign, in which case she may throw really valuable things out with the morning trash, then be puzzled why she can’t find them weeks later).
The Bull is possessive (not quite the same thing as jealous) and his approach to love is likely to be solid, sensible and practical, seldom emotionally erratic, capricious or unduly enthusiastic – but cozy! Although the two of them are much alike in many ways, this is one where they may not be. A Moon Maiden can allow unfounded jealousy to torture her into moods of deep depression – or worse yet, a suspicious, bitter or clinging attitude that can infuriate a Bull. (The clinging he doesn’t mind so much, he may even enjoy it – the suspiciousness he can do without.) Her active imagination sometimes causes her to develop fears which, although based more on fantasy than fact, can bring on floods of tears, and a touch of hysteria. It sounds hopeless, but it isn’t really. In fact, not many Sun Sign combinations have as much hope for success as Taurus and Cancer, once they know who they are, and where they’re going.
Taurus already pretty much knows that about himself. Temporarily ruled (until Pan-Horus is discovered and identified) by the harmonious, peaceful Venus, he’s more inclined to keep an even keel regarding their differences than she is. This woman is ruled by the Moon, which is a reflector of light. So she instinctively reflects the moods around her, indeed, every change in her immediate environment is reflected, mirror-like, in her heart and brain. Sometimes all that reflecting creates an eclipse of her true self. It’s not easy for a Moon Maid to know who she is, and where she’s going, although she has an uncanny sense of the feelings and intentions of others. Lots of people trust their secrets to her, and are rewarded with both tender sympathy and wise counsel. Yet, it’s nextto-impossible to pry her own secrets out of her.
The Bull might say to her, “I don’t understand you. You say you love me, but you spend all your time running around, giving birth to ideas and babies, buying clothes, taking CARE packages to your friends, working for the PTA and Greenpeace and the garden club, listening to music, painting pictures, making bank deposits, learning French, visiting the planetarium, and sitting out in the back yard, staring at the Moon by yourself. You don’t need me. I’m just in the way around here.” Now, she may perceive, after a speech similar to that one, what the problem is. He’s hurt, because he’s not getting the attention he needs, the pats on the head and affectionate hugs and kisses he hungers for, to make him feel securely loved. However, lacking her Lunar sensitivity, he may not understand how much she needs all her busy activities – as well as her world of dreams – so she can reflect back into life all the things she absorbs by living it.
It should be obvious, then, who must make the first move to wave the olive branch. The one who most perceives how it is with the other. That would, of course, be her.
Still, her attempts at making up with him can seem a little vague and devious to the direct, uncomplicated Bull. First, she retreats in tears, then crawls toward him sideways. It confuses him. How is he to interpret her message when she tucks a baked apple under his pillow, or leaves a sentimental poem under his wet cake of soap, in the shower? It stuck to the paper, obliterating the words, and for all he knows, it could be a farewell note. She should just come right out and say, “I do need you, and I can’t live without you, and the reason I scoot around all the time is because…” etc. and so on. Then she should prove she means it in a physical way – the only language a Taurus man understands. Simple. Plain. Honest. Down to Earth. And sensual. He doesn’t like to be teased. No Bull likes to be teased.
Their sexual compatibility, barring severe afflictions between their natal planets in their respective birth charts, is usually excellent. She may now and then wish he’d be a little less clumsy with his romantic jokes, and a little more delicate in his verbal expressions of passion. But on the whole, the Taurus sense of touch is as refined and delicate as anyone could ask. His masculine virility can coax this uncertain girl out of her shell, with the promise of the kind of fulfillment most women only read about in novels. The Bull will give the Moon Maiden a feeling of being snugly loved, warmly desired – and, yes, sexually dominated (which is what she really wants, in her secret heart).
Don’t frown, ERA ladies. Not all, but some females actually do enjoy being “conquered” by males, at least physically. Admittedly, true equality means neither sex is superior, and therefore neither should submit to or dominate the other. But the sexual relationship between a man and a woman is an entirely different matter from their interchange intellectually, or on an achievement level. It’s a very personal and individual kind of emotional chemistry – not always predictable.
The Taurus man will lavish enough affection on the Cancerian woman, to banish the fears she’s accumulated since childhood that nobody really wants or needs her because most people are more capable in every way than she. He does. He wants her, and he needs her. And he’ll show it in unmistakable ways, if she’ll let him.
It’s difficult for this lady to resist real love when it’s offered with the kind of sincerity Taurus love is offered. In return, she’ll adore him madly (with an emphasis on the madness, during the Full Moon) and probably never leave him – unless he places her in the middle in a fuss with her family, or insults her mother (a cardinal sin to the Cardinal Sign of Cancer, if she’s a typical Crab). Then he may lose her for a while. This girl is intensely loyal to her mama, usually, and sometimes papa runs a close second. But she’ll return to her Bull when the Moon changes (assuming he apologizes, of course). Since he’s so stubborn, the reconciliation may never occur if she doesn’t understand, and forgive him before he asks to be forgiven. He won’t beg.
She is so changeable – or is she fickle? He is so patient – or is he obstinate? Which is it? The true answer depends on which way they look at it.
While he’s wearing his Taurean blinders, it’s impossible for him to see the truth about anything, so he appears bull-headed.
While she’s gazing into her Lunar mirror, the truth is sometimes distorted, so her emotions appear to fluctuate unreliably. But when the issues are cloudy, they can always find their way back to each other, through the mist, if they meditate on this ancient wisdom: Seek the truth, and the truth shall set you free. What is the real truth? Love. Unselfish and forgiving love. The genuine kind.