Virgo Woman and Capricorn Man Compatibility
On cover image- Famous Virgo woman and Capricorn man – Lauren Bacall and Humphrey Bogart
“Oh dear! I am sure I sometimes think spinsters are to be
envied.” Her face beamed when she exclaimed this.
You remember about her pet wolf. Well, it very soon
discovered that she had come to the island and it found her
out, and they just ran into each other’s arms.
As with everything else in astrology, there’s a reason why Virgos are symbolized by the Virgin. Both sexes. If the truth be told, almost every Virgo would prefer to live alone forever. (Not necessarily as a literal virgin, of course, but unmarried.) The Virgo woman is seldom thrilled by the thought of trying to match her life style to the habits of another person (especially if the other person has messy habits). It’s a terrible dilemma for her, actually, because she can fall in love as deeply and as liltingly as any other woman. And once she’s fallen in love, she’s tortured by conflicting feelings.
She’s aware that she’d be much more comfortable in a relationship recognized and respected by both the law and society. Namely, legal marriage. Second, when she truly loves a man, she feels it’s her duty to marry him, bear his children, darn his socks, grate his celery and carrots, keep his shirts from humiliating him (and her) with ring-around-the-collar, help him with his income tax, all those necessary human burdens. Her lovely, clear eyes become cloudy, and her pure forehead wrinkles with worry over the situation. The more she analyzes it, the more troubled she is. Fortunately, she’s an Earth Sign, not an Air Sign like Libra. If a Libra lady had the Virgin’s problem, she’d really go bananas, trying to decide what to do. Virgo will keep her cool while she’s analyzing all the details of her marital dilemma, and view the whole thing in a reasonably calm manner. But she may bite her nails a lot, and those worry wrinkles will reveal her inner turmoil. Mostly, she’ll keep it within, hash it out with herself, Narcissus-like, while she’s still unsure.
The plus side of her conflict over whether or not to marry we just covered a paragraph or so ago – all those reasons why she feels she should give in and renounce her single status. The minus side is what marriage means – or what it will probably mean to her, as a Virgo. It will mean adjusting her life to the whims of another individual, adapting herself to being constantly on call, 24 hours a day, to cook, sew, make small talk, make love, have children, raise children, dust, sweep, clean .. . then there’s the laundry, the bills, the necessity for compromise concerning social activities and a hundred other areas where her preferences and those of her husband might clash. (Virgos hate clashes. Clashing makes them nervous.)
Despite her reputation for neatness, cleanliness and tidiness, not every Virgo woman in the world is a born homemaker. In fact, very few of them are. (We’ll discuss why a little later.) Consequently, the possibility of becoming a household drudge is high on the list of the reasons she’d rather not wed – and it’s why lots of Virgo girls decide early in life that the institution of marriage is for the weak-minded. But then, there are always one’s friends, relatives and neighbors to consider. What will they think of her decision to remain single? And what of her responsibility to the man she loves? How can he possibly manage without her by his side at night and in the morning, in case he should need something, and she’s all the way crosstown? If they don’t legally marry, but just find a suitable apartment halfway between her job and his job, and live together, wouldn’t she be forced to do all those wifely things for him anyway (become a household drudge) even though they weren’t actually man and wife? I can answer that for her, without spending a lot of time analyzing it. Yes, she would.
So the Virgin is left with the choice of either remaining a virgin – or becoming his bride. These are the only two sensible solutions for a lady who feels such a sense of duty toward her lover that just seeing him every other day or so isn’t enough to remove her nagging worry that he might need her in some way during those hours they’re apart. If you haven’t already gathered that most Virgo women privately enjoy being needed (never mind how they complain about it) then consider yourself informed now that they do.
Should the man she loves happen to be a Capricorn, her dilemma is a waste of perfectly good hours which could have been profitably spent otherwise. If she’s involved in a meaningful affair with a Goat, she can forget analyzing. Not always, but at least eight times out of ten, a Capricorn man who really loves a woman will either make her his proper and respectable wife – or leave her and grow bitter,nursing his loss for years, rather than consent, for any length of time, to a relationship that isn’t legally, socially and religiously sanctioned, or is contrary to general custom – and especially one that could conceivably be frowned upon by his sainted family. The sexual revolution has changed many former traditions, patterns and concepts, but it has not yet made a dent in the basic Sun Sign personality of the Goats. Nor is it likely to do so in the near future. It will take several generations to convince Cappy that living in sin is not living in sin, even when he’s reluctantly living in it. Besides, he nearly always will want a family, this man – and he’s not about to bring up his sons and daughters illegitimately, deprived of the great privilege of bearing his family name. That’s unthinkable. It’s sacrilegious. Even worse, it would be humiliating.
Another reason it’s difficult for the Virgo woman to avoid marriage with her Goat is because the two of them are emotionally guided in their love relationship by the 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern, the most basically compatible vibration the planets see fit to bestow upon mortals. It isn’t an absolute guarantee of happiness, naturally. Even 5-9er’s have to work at it – and there are always those few 5-9 couples whose Luminaries are in adverse aspect between their birth charts. They’ll still be unusually sympathetic to each other, but may find it hard to compromise their disagreements. Nevertheless, it’s a beneficent influence to have as a foundation for love, and whether 5-9 lovers exchange a positive or negative natal Sun-Moon aspect between them (in addition to their trined Suns) they are always more miserable when apart than most other men and women who separate for one cause or another.
So there’s really not much use for her to indulge in a dance of doubt with this man. When the Virgin and the Goat first meet, they’ll feel a karmic tug of long ago and far away, mixed with an almost instant empathy and comprehension of one another’s viewpoints. Their auras blend, lock into place harmoniously – and after that, untangling them is as difficult and delicate a task as untangling the fur balls of a Persian kitten. (Most Virgos own a cat or two. Virgos have a thing about cats. They either worship them or they can’t stand to be in the same room – or even the same neighborhood – with anything feline. But they are never just neutral about pussycats.)
These two communicate beautifully, whether they’re dancing (which they don’t do often, especially not on a night before they both have to be at work or school early the next morning), just talking and relaxing, working on a project together .. . or making love, which is a mutual endeavor they’ll both enjoy tremendously. Neither of them finds it easy to be natural regarding sex. Secretly, each of them has always feared that he (or she) is inadequate in some way. But when the Virgo girl melts snugly into the secure arms of the Capricorn man she loves, she seems to lose all her coolness, detachment and inhibitions. Likewise for him, when this woman nestles trustingly against his shoulder in the dark, then moves uncertainly nearer. Their need grows slowly, until it becomes deep and overwhelming. When two Earth Signs express their desire for each other physically, their feelings can be mighty powerful – in a word, earthquaking. The girls he used to know and maybe thought he loved – the men she used to know and wondered if she loved – would be amazed. Until they discovered an emotion they could trust to be wholly reciprocal, both the Virgo girl and the Capricorn man may have been more than once accused by others of being cold and romantically unresponsive. That’s why their sexual union is frequently such a warmly intimate interlude within their other levels of togetherness. It may be the first time they have ever felt free to just be themselves, holding nothing back, loving with an abandon and a sense of human completeness they always wistfully longed to know and to share, but were never quite able to attain with anyone else – until they found each other and were able to experience an unexpected earthquake of passion.
I promised earlier in this section to tell you why lots of Virgo women aren’t thrilled about housekeeping and homemaking. Some of them are, of course, and when they are, they revel in it – but a surprisingly large percentage of them are not. A person who hates to live in disorder is not necessarily a person who enjoys keeping things in order. Aside from the Virgos who do have spotless homes, the others are made nervous by the sight of the continual disarray of daily living. Make a bed, wash a dish, mop a floor, wash a bag of laundry and almost before you’re through, the bed is again unmade, the dishes are once more dirty, the floor is tracked with someone’s muddy boots, and the clean clothes are soiled as soon as they’re worn. It’s discouraging, and it keeps you forever analyzing how to cope with it all more efficiently, which fatigues the brain, makes you tired and unable to do your work (creating a vicious circle), besides which there’s really no answer to the problem of beds that simply won’t stay made, dishes that stubbornly refuse to remain spotless, floors that perversely need sweeping and mopping only a few hours after they’ve been left freshly waxed and gleaming – and clean clothes that insist on needing to be washed and bleached and dried repeatedly.
You see, the reason so many neat and clean Virgo women contradictorily dislike housekeeping almost neurotically is because they are all perfectionists, and there’s nothing so discouraging to a perfectionist as something you’ve managed to straighten out and make nice and neat that simply will not remain nice and neat, no matter how much effort you spend. Because this creates the most ulcer-inducing worry of all to a Virgo, which is, simply: is it either sensible or practical to waste so much valuable time retracing one’s steps? When they finally decide it’s neither, the Virgins often leave the dishes stacked in the sink, the beds unmade, the laundry undone, the floor streaked with scuff marks – and desperately rush out to find a job of some kind where their talents for bringing order out of chaos and confusion will mean something. It doesn’t always work, unfortunately, because then Virgo begins to develop all sorts of physical and emotional complaints, due to a consciously unrecognized sense of guilt for neglecting a “duty.” This girl can use lots of sympathy.
Although Goats aren’t excessively sensitive, the 5-9 cord that binds them will allow the Goat to treat the little baby torments and traumas of his Virgo woman with more genuine consideration than is normally his custom. He knows what it’s like to endure agonies of guilt and frustration over exaggerated self images of neglecting responsibility. Indeed, the moods of depression with which the kindly, earnest Goat is periodically afflicted, often stem from the same twinges of self-criticism and self-chastisement his Virgo lady suffers. He tends to discipline himself as severely as she does herself, holding his hurt inside, like her, restricting his emotions as she does, seldom allowing them to escape into the freedom of natural expression.
As for those scattered areas of tension between them, they could arise if she’s overly critical of his family in any way or nags a bit too much. All Goats tend to balk and butt with their stubborn horns when they’re nagged or pushed. Some quarrels could be caused by his refusal to spend enough time talking with her about the hundreds of things she reads and hears that stimulate her active, alert mind. She likes to always be either verbally analyzing something or physically doing something. Idleness bores her and makes her restless, whereas his metabolism and day-to-day behavior are keyed to a much more leisurely, relaxed pace. Then too, there’s his self-protective Saturnine selfishness – the Capricorn “me first” attitude he’s seldom aware he possesses. Should he take undue advantage of her instinctive unselfish urge to serve, their relationship can become lopsided, and she could resent it inwardly for a long time before it spills over into a serious confrontation.
Then she might decide she was right in the first place about a single life being the only sensible and peaceful way to live, pack up her vitamins, her dictionary, her pocket calculator, her toothbrush and other personal belongings – and leave him. The separation may not last long. In a month or so, after she’s settled into her bachelor girl’s apartment, luxuriating in being a loner again, she’ll surprise herself with her own tears some night, in the stillness she thought would be peaceful, but turned out to contain instead only the awful ache of emptiness. She’ll realize she misses snuggling in his arms .. . his soft, twinkling Goat’s eyes and his shy humor… even his occasional gruffness, his grumpy moods and his unthinking selfish moments that hide such a gentle, devoted and loyal heart. As gentle, devoted and loyal as her own.
Is that the doorbell ringing? Yes, it is. Surprise! It’s him. He has the perfect excuse to stop by and see how she’s doing without him. She made a mistake and took his toothbrush when she left. He is returning hers, so they can trade. She stares at him for one shocked moment, then exclaims, “But I didn’t notice, and I’ve already been using your toothbrush for nearly a month!” He’ll tell her he didn’t notice either right away, and he’s been using hers. Then they’ll run into each other’s arms, because they’ll know there’s no use fighting it any longer. They love. How could they possibly have used each other’s toothbrushes if they didn’t? They couldn’t. For Virgo and Capricorn, that’s the ultimate intimacy, the final proof of destined Oneness. Otherwise, obviously, they would both have surely turned into stone statues as punishment for such an improper trespass against custom, so warned against in childhood as a no-no.
Unexpectedly, the two of them feel as free as birds! He drives her back home, so sweetly familiar, but still feeling free, instead of going inside, they race each other into the back yard. He takes off his stuffy tie, and tosses it over the outstretched arms of the nearest tree .. . she removes her uptight Virgo sandals .. . and they dance barefoot in the moonlight, under the surprised stars, the grass tickling their toes deliriously, intoxicated by the heavy fragrance of honeysuckle vines. Finally, they fall down beneath the tree, laughing and crying at the same time .. . and suddenly, without warning, it’s silent between them. The only sound is the chirping of crickets. They both know what the silence means. Sometimes, need won’t wait. After all, it’s their yard, it’s surrounded by a high wall, tall spruce and hedges, and the neighbors are asleep….
It’s about time they broke the chains of restriction, to learn that love will not be imprisoned by anyone’s rules. From far away in the distance, Virgo’s true ruling planet, Vulcan, thunders approval… while in the sky overhead, Saturn weeps with a strange and unaccustomed joy. After a time, a soft, steady rain begins to fall. They don’t even notice. His very best tie will surely be ruined. But who cares? His Virgin will knit him a new one, now that she’s back home, where she belongs.
That night, of course, there was an earthquake – though not the kind that can be measured on the Richter scale.