Aquarius Woman and Pisces Man Compatibility
On cover image- Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham
If he thought at all, but I don’t believe he ever thought, it
was that he and his shadow, when brought near each other,
would join like drops of water; and
when they did not he was appalled.
his sobs woke Wendy, and she sat up in bed. She was
not alarmed to see a stranger crying … . she was only
Aquarian girls are not easy to shock or alarm, even less easy to surprise. The shocks, alarms, and surprises are mostly on their side of the fence. This female likes to keep her man in suspense by such picaroonish peccadilloes as suddenly appearing before him wearing brown-tinted contact lenses, and saying sweetly: “Whatever gave you the idea I had blue eyes, darling?” – phoning him on his lunch hour with the cheerful message: “I became restless hanging around the house, so I decided to fly to Mexico and go surfing. Could you catch a plane after work and join me?” – using his hairbrush to comb out the silken strands of her Oriental rug – or perhaps waking him in the middle of the night with the sound of another man’s sensual voice in his ear. (It’s only a small tape recorder under her pillow, so she can learn the Italian language while she sleeps, but she forgot to tell him. Well, how could she tell him, for gosh sakes, when he came home and ate dinner and then went right to bed without even saying goodnight?) Rule Number One. Don’t bore this girl. Her boredom threshold is extremely low.
Of course, the Fish, although he doesn’t have a habit of shocking people himself, is almost as hard to surprise as she is, so he may not be unduly shaken over her antics, such as a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn man might be. Pisces understands human nature, even freaky human nature. It’s all part of being resigned to having been born into a world of misfits, which takes in not just Aquarians but the entire population of the planet. The Neptune-ruled are enormously tolerant of behavioral oddities. All Pisces men contain a trace of the confessional priest or the contemplative monk. They also have hiding somewhere within them an Einsteinish sort of abstract reasoning .. . and a playful dolphin. They can be regular geniuses in things like mathematics and mechanics, but they also like to walk in the rain and pick daffodils, sleep outdoors and watch the Milky Way twinkling at Regulus on a summer night and make dandelion rings. I guess, when you ponder it profoundly, a Pisces man definitely possesses enough curious charisma to keep an Aquarian girl from becoming bored.
Most Pisces males are, except during their rare moments of crankiness (always for good reason), on the whole, considerate and thoughtful fellows, with rather shy, gentle, and benevolent dispositions. The Fish will usually give his family – or the woman he loves – everything he owns. Of course, if he’s a certain kind of Piscean, he may not own much of a material nature to give. For one thing, others may have borrowed or taken it from him already. For another, he tends to procrastinate, to put off his dreams for another day… which can stretch into years. Pisces often turns away from facing the cold, hard demands Life makes upon those who aspire to substantial worldly success.
If he’s the opposite kind of Fish, he has enough talents, and is gifted with sufficient direction to achieve both recognition and financial compensation in nearly any endeavor he might wish to undertake. He will enjoy the finer things of Life and will be well fitted to purposefully pursue the material pattern necessary to attain them. These are the Pisceans astrology refers to as “Whales” still gentle, still playful, psychic and benevolent – but with far more power and aggressive drive than the Neptune dreamers. Whichever kind of Fish the Aquarian girl loves, she won’t count the cost of the material things he gives her, for he’s just as willing to give her the intangibles .. . his thoughts and dreams . . . his ideas and ideals .. . his visions and perceptions .. . and his vulnerable heart. All those things are worth far more than electric organs, Haviland china, car ports, expensive gifts, and household trinkets.
They should certainly be worth more to the Aquarian woman, whose sense of values is normally tuned in to the true and genuine. Unless she was born with a more materialistically oriented Moon Sign or Ascendent, the typical Water Bearer of the female gender is able to discriminate between the real and the phony with little effort. She understands that the intangible is often what is real…. and treasures things that can’t be perceived by the senses.
The Fish who loves her may expect always the unexpected from this lady. Unconventional behavior, however mildly unconventional, is the mold into which she was poured in the womb. Her name may be Leslie, the ballerina, or Broomhilda. Her job may be sweeping chimneys – or she may have an ordinary name, like Ruth Edwards, and be a bank teller. But she will be, to repeat, at the very least, mildly unconventional.
Aquarian women can be surprisingly practical in day-to-day matters like banking and such (some of them are brilliant with math, and able to add whole columns of figures in their heads). Nonetheless, they are .. different in some way. If you meet a nice, quiet, conservative bank teller named Ruth, who was born in February, don’t form a judgment without first asking her fellow employees, her husband, or her family a few discreet questions. You may be in for a jolt. She might drive a tractor to work on snowy days, tote her lunch in a gym bag, wear snowshoes behind the counter, have a hobby of checking Russian timetables to see how often their trains are late, use a genuine antique quill pen from the desk of Abe Lincoln to write out a wire transfer – or secretly collect Andy Gump and Tillie the Toiler comic books. And .. . did you notice that tiny tattoo of the Wizard of Oz just above her right elbow? She is .. . somehow … different.
The Aquarian girl’s love for humanity and her innate kindness shine through everything she says or does. However, her love for humanity is no barrier to her lack of concern regarding what people think. Her Pisces lover or husband may have more than one cause to blush over her refusal to live her life to please the folks next door. Not that she’ll do anything really dreadful, but it could be a mite embarrassing if she decides to keep a chicken coop on the front porch, sings ancient Incan mantras in the backyard, in the moonlight, or runs the electric lawnmower about five A.M., just before sunrise, wearing her trainman’s hat and overalls, shouting “ALL ABO – A – RD!” because she has this nostalgic thing about the trains she rode as a child. People don’t always understand
The Aquarian woman and the Pisces man have similar ideas about promises. They both mistrust them, and dislike to make them – to one another or to anyone else. The Fish will occasionally break his own rule and make a promise, only to slide away from it later, should changing circumstances prevent him from keeping it. An Aquarian woman will tell you right out that she doesn’t like to make a promise, because she might have to break it. It’s a unique form of Uranus integrity. No one should make promises or swear on things, believes Aquarius, for the sensible reason that no one can predict with certainty what might happen. Usually, all you can persuade this woman to say is that she’ll try as best she can to do tomorrow what she believes she wants to do today. That’s about as far as she’ll go. Promises are for those who like to fool themselves, and others, into thinking they totally control their own future feelings.
The very first thing the Uranus-ruled woman is likely to do when she falls in love with a Pisces man is to tell him her problems, ideas, thoughts, and theories, to see what he thinks of them. She won’t use him as a shoulder to cry upon as much as a sounding board for projected action. Strangely, she will listen to much of his advice. But in a few matters, she’ll go her merry way, despite his wiser counsel. Then, when she stumbles, he will tenderly pick her up and comfort her. She reaches for his hand, and it’s always there. Even for an unpredictable Aquarian woman, that’s a nice, cozy feeling.
Well, to be honest, sometimes he may not be there. He’s capable of suddenly disappearing – or perhaps not suddenly, but gradually. Normally, the Fish is emotionally dependable. He’ll take a great deal before his limit is reached. But when he can no longer bear the hurt and the pain, in whatever form it takes, he will swim softly away, rather than face the continual wear and tear of confrontation.
The Aquarian woman is capable of the same sort of disappearance, except that her vanishing act is the kind you see on a stage, with a magician. Presto! Now you see her – now you don’t. She fades into memory, like the magician’s brightly colored silk scarves and fluffy white rabbits. Like the Pisces male, she, too, can bear only a certain amount of growing tension before deciding to release herself from an emotional prison. Unlike many others, this woman catches on early in life to the esoteric truth that she is her own jailer and warden, that she herself, and no one else, holds the key to her own freedom.
The sexual relationship of the Fish and Water Bearer is often more of an experiment than an experience, at least in the beginning. Each is a degree dubious about the wisdom of submitting one’s whole self to another. Bodies are less important. These two lovers will go through all the motions of lovemaking, and yet not be certain this is a total union, until the spirit catches up with the desire and need of the flesh. When this does occur, the physical demonstration of their love is, for him – the realization of a long-cherished dream; for her – another of life’s ecstatic joys. Not the only one – but a very special, enchanted one. For, in truth, she loves Life itself, with all its varied surprises, far too much to ever place all her hopes in only one of its miracles. Still, these two can discover more poetic meaning to the naturalness of their physical intimacies than many other couples suspect can be attained.
First and foremost, however, before this woman will totally commit herself to the man she loves, he must prove to her that he is her friend – her real friend – that he desires not just to possess her heart and her body, but to blend their minds as well. The barest hint of disloyalty on the friendship level, and she’ll turn as cold as the first frost of winter. Friendship comes first to Aquarius, love second – and sex is an enjoyable, but not-to-be-overrated third. This is not to say she isn’t passionate, for she is. It depends upon your definition of passion. Mental affinity, mental intercourse, if you will, in its purest meaning, adds a deeper dimension to passion, always. The Uranus-ruled sense this truth within themselves, long before others ever learn it.
The greatest weakness of a Pisces man is the possibility that he may neglect his personal welfare, and carelessly disregard his own needs and rights, because of his tendency to give both his time and his money to those who need his help. But to his Aquarian woman, self-sacrifice is not a weakness. It’s a strength, without which a man is not really a man – let alone qualified to be her friend.
The greatest character flaw in the Aquarian woman is her Fixed refusal to conform, her thirst for change, and her hunger for adventure. But to her Pisces man, unconventionality is not a flaw. It’s what made him love her in the first place, because it’s so much like his own. Being just a little crazy together is the stuff from which their magic is made.
Yes, they will argue, even frequently. But it’s a funny thing about arguments between a man and woman who love each other. You imagine that you’re quarreling about this or that, when what you both really mean is – I want you. After all her Uranus guessing games are over, after all his Neptune evasions fade away, that’s what matters.