I think it must be a lady… a lady to take care of us at
last,” said one of the Twins….
Every Lioness, quiet naturally, you must admit, has an instinctive desire to tame the man she loves, to make him her exclusive property. She needs a mate in whom she can have absolute faith, a man who is clearly stronger than she is, and yet, who will cherish her without reservation. It’s a mighty tall order. Especially when she sets out to tame a Gemini.
In the Game of Love, as in the Game of Life and Living, this man is what card players call a kibitzer. He hangs around, with always a few hidden aces up his sleeve, aware of everyone’s hand, confident that he could, if need be, pass off a busted straight as a royal flush. He knows a lot about everything, but not quite enough to make a grand slam and end the challenge he finds so intriguing. It makes more sense to Gemini to be a jack-of-all-trades and master of none. Once you become expert at any one of them, you see, people have this annoying habit of expecting you to stay there, doing your thing forever.
Gemini is an Air Sign, driven constantly by the need for change, any kind of change at all, just so it’s change, however minor or major, which leads him on to the next traveling dice game with interesting stakes. Unlike the other two astrological gamblers, Leo and Sag, the Twins always want in and out fast, a quick win or a quick loss, then try again. If you deal yourself in for enough games, Gemini figures, you eventually overcome poor judgment and bad luck. No longterm investments in a career, family ties, friendship or romance, for the typical Gemini male – at least, not while he’s young. (Of course, you must realize that that may be a long time, because Gemini never grows up.) To the typical Mercury-ruled man, Life is a series of toy dirigibles and fragile bubbles, spent among mischievous children armed with sharp pins. A man must be agile to leap over them, to sail his dirigibles and blow his bubbles out of their range, in the nick of time. And where do the dirigibles, the bubbles, come from? He’s never wondered. He only knows they never stop coming. You have to be quick – to pick out the good ones and spot the ones to cut the string on before they fizzle out. The toy dirigibles, that is. As for the bubbles, they’re pretty to watch and fun to create, but he doesn’t fool himself into trying to make any of them last. Dirigibles are different. They’re tougher, and one of them might take him where he’s going – if he only knew where that might be.
Take women, for example. Gemini knows – or supposes he does – which one will fly with him and not slow him down by hanging on his sleeve – and the ones to back away from because they think any kind of flying is for the birds. (It is, but that also includes Mercury Birds, like himself.) At first, he’ll think the Lioness belongs in the former category, because she certainly won’t hang on his sleeve. She has other ways of slowing him down, more subtle. This is, as the reader may know by now, one of those fated 3-11 Sun Sign Pattern relationships, planned by their Higher Selves long ago. Whether it ends in love or friendship, it is nevertheless pregnant with karmic obligations, often marked for a strange destiny, and always urging each partner on toward either unusual sacrifice or uncommon devotion – or both. Whether the 3-11 vibration (some, of course, involve business or ties with blood relatives) leads to a lasting love or a platonic association depends on many things, among them, the mutual aspects between their natal Suns, Moon Signs and Ascendents – and other planetary exchanges between their birth charts.
If the Leo girl has permanence in mind, she’ll first have to tame him. It won’t be like taming any of the other male animals in the astrological zoo. It’s trickier. A Gemini man is more slippery and elusive. Besides, remember that there are two of him. The escape hatches of the Twins are covered with such charm of speech and gesture that this man can be gone while a girl is still swooning over the wisp of beauty he draped over her, like a delicate cobweb, to camouflage his departure and make it easier for her to bear. (He does have a kind heart.) But the Lioness has a head start on this sort of Mercury chicanery, because a Leo woman doesn’t swoon over men. Men swoon over her – and don’t you forget it.
A more difficult obstacle than seeing through his cobwebs of charm, which she’ll have to hurdle in taming him, is that to a Gemini man all females are alike – threats to his freedom, suspicious of his unpredictable behavior, always demanding that he love them exactly the same today as he did yesterday. How can that possibly be, when his emotions contain so many depths and breadths? Sooner or later, a woman will begin to nag you about not having a concrete goal, and who wants to pursue cement? Since the Gemini man is bored by most females, because they all seem the same to him, the Leo girl will have to convince him that she’s not like all the others. She’ll have to train him, and tame him .. . to listen for her step, her laugh, her voice .. . to recognize that her vibration is individual, making music only for him, that her aura is different from the aura of any other woman in the world. Maybe she can even train him to notice that the golden, tawny flecks in her eyes are exactly like those in a fine piece of amber, so that everytime he sees an amber ring or bracelet on his travels he’ll remember
Then amber will always be beautiful to him, because it will bring thoughts of her warm smile, her proud spirit, the glow in her eyes .. . and tug on his heart to return. Not just to her smile and spirit and eyes but to all the other parts of her he misses. Like, there’s her bright mind – the way she hikes over the hills beside him with her graceful, Lioness stride, without getting tired – the way she sits tall in the saddle when she rides – jackknifes into the water, swoops down the slopes on her skis, swings a tennis racquet, or smacks a golf ball. Leo women usually excel at one or two outdoor sports, not counting indoor sports, like acting, dancing, romancing, and so forth – and, like Cancerian Moon Maidens, many of them are amateur or professional photographers.
She’ll have to seed all these memories in his mind and convince him that she’s unique. It’s all part of the Gemini taming process. A girl who loves this man must keep up with both his mind and his body, not to mention his two separate personalities and his multiple moods. Eventually, he’ll begin to think of her as the most unique woman he’s ever known. But he won’t be completely tamed until he thinks of her as the most unique woman he ever will know. There’s a definite difference, and a Lioness will comprehend what I mean right away.
Actually, this woman is unique. She’s a born “lady,” and there aren’t many of those around anymore. A Leo female can roll in the grass, climb a tree, change a tire, or any number of traditionally considered unladylike things, but her general demeanor will remain as casually gracious and poised as if she were walking down a red-carpeted aisle to be coronated. (It takes real class for a girl to keep her tiara on straight when she’s jacking up a rear axle.) The regal aura is ever present. Let someone snicker, deride her, or make the huge mistake of becoming too familiar when she hasn’t extended an invitation to intimacy, and she’ll freeze into such a tower of icy dignity that the offender will shrink into his socks – or wish to blazes the ground would mercifully open up and swallow him. Like the typical Capricorn female, the typical Lioness possesses a distinct and unmistakable air of excellent breeding. Whether it’s actual or only illusionary, it’s tangible and visible. The only weakness in the Leo armour of majestic dignity is the Leonine tendency to be transparently vulnerable to flattery. At any other time, however, the royal blood runs clearly blue, and the manner is aloof, proud, Queen-like. The Gemini man who refers to this female as “babe” or “chick,” either by word or implication, will soon learn what the term “lady” means.
He’ll have to become accustomed (which he’ll probably do rather pleasantly) to allowing her to take most – or all – of the bows in public. She’ll get most of the attention, even when she doesn’t encourage it. It’s that subtle mantle of royalty that hovers over every Leo ever born. No matter how sweetly she speaks to him, no matter how adoringly she gazes up at him, as if he’s the star of the show – more heads will turn in her direction than in his, however handsome, dashing, witty and intelligent he may be. Something about her bearing, her lazy, confident manner of speaking, the way she carelessly tosses her mane of hair out of her eyes, suggests a royal charisma.
She means no harm. A true, noble, warm-hearted and in-love Lioness never deliberately usurps her mate’s status (only everyone else’s). She can’t help it if the natives are restless and have their eyes fastened on her. Fortunately, a Gemini man is seldom overly or unduly possessive, so he’ll probably see her popularity as just another factor in her uniqueness. (You see, he is gradually becoming tamed.) He might console himself by remembering that Gemini President Jack Kennedy wryly introduced himself in France as “the man who accompanied Jacqueline Bouvier to Paris.” Jackie, as you all must know by now, is a Lioness.
Statistically, the sexual compatibility of these Sun Sign lovers often requires certain mutual adjustments and compromises. For one thing, nothing can so chill the warmth of a Lioness as deception or disloyalty from her mate, and that includes everything from harmless flirting to actual sexual infidelity. The Gemini man will find her Leonine jealousy and fiery pride of possession easier to overlook when the shoe is on the other foot, for then he’ll be given a strong idea of what it feels like to be ignored and rejected. He won’t like it at all, yet he won’t be quite as outraged as she would be in the same situation. Geminis take everything somewhat more lightly than most everyone else – certainly more lightly than an intense Fire Sign like Leo.
However, once she’s really tamed him, jealousy may never be a problem on either side. The problem then becomes one of simple romantic technique. A well-loved Lioness is an exceptionally affectionate and loving woman. She’s capable of both raging passion and languid sensuality. But a carelessly loved Lioness is extremely susceptible to the symptoms of frigidity. She’s not a female who would enjoy being ravaged by a gorilla-type lover (King Kong is not her secret fantasy) – nor is she a woman who would smile indulgently at the clumsiness of a bashful schoolboy, who drowns her in puppy-like adoration. She expects a man to make love to her with finesse. A Gemini man is simply saturated with finesse, charm and delicacy. But his touch may sometimes be so light, his seductive overtures so airy, she feels he might dematerialize, right in front of her eyes, before their physical love reaches fulfillment. To satisfy her deeper needs, which are visibly more fiery than his, he’ll have to sweep her off her feet now and then in a dramatic scene of wild and ecstatic surrender.
If not all that, then he should frequently find a way to let her know he can’t resist the magnetic sexual chemistry between them. To her, physical union is more than a Mercury mental challenge or an emotional exercise. She still hears the faint call of the jungle. But she’ll unfold tenderly under his imaginative approach if he occasionally deepens its intensity – and remembers that she needs to hear how beautiful and desirable she is in order to respond completely. “A woman is beautiful only when she is loved.” Especially a Leo woman.
This man and woman are both extravagant with words – and with money. They share exquisite taste, they both adore dressing up, they’re equally fond of travel, literature and the arts. They’re also both equally adept at getting their own way – she through the lovable quality of expecting it as her right – he, through his irresistible blarney. A Leo girl can tame the Gemini man more easily if she remembers the rules for taming any restless, active, yet curious bird. It requires much patience, and you start by smiling at him with your eyes, at a distance .. . taking care not to move too quickly, for that would frighten him away. In the beginning, silent communion is best, because words, particularly between these two Sun Signs, often contain the seeds of misunderstanding. Then if she moves a little nearer to him every day and never causes him to feel his freedomis threatened
A Gemini man needs to be reminded that there are some things in his changing, Mercurial existence that are very special – and unique – in all the worlds he longs to roam. That’s why he’ll be happier after he’s been tamed by the proud Lioness, if only because of the new beauty of amber he’ll never be able to look upon without remembering the tawny flecks in her eyes.