Aries Man and Pisces Woman Compatibility
The many gentlemen who had been boys when she was a
girl discovered simultaneously that they loved her, and they
all ran over to her house to propose to her except Mr.
Darling, who took a cab and nipped in first, and so he got
Since no man is more male than a Ram, and no woman is more female than a Fish, the love between these two is never flawed by confusion over sexual identification. It’s a true mating, in every sense of the word you can imagine. When an Aries man and a Pisces woman fall in love, Mother Nature smiles approvingly At its best, the liaison brings out all his shining Aries heroism, and all her tender Pisces devotion. These two are Romeo and Juliet in the flesh. At its worst, it can bring out his latent Mars sadism and her latent Neptune masochism. Even so, if he enjoys playing Tyrannical-Master-of-the-Mansion, and she gets kicks from playing Little-Eva-in-the-Snow, who are we to spoil their fun? I remember well the evening I spent with friends of mine, an Aries man and his Pisces wife, in West Virginia. After their seven children had been tucked in bed, the handsome Ram placed a protective arm around his pretty girl Fish, and spoke emphatically: “My woman doesn’t run around chasing a career and joining clubs. I keep her pregnant in the summer and barefoot in the winter – so she stays out of trouble.”
As I started to hand her a heavy brass ashtray to throw at his head, I noticed the strangest thing. She was smiling up at him with absolute adoration and pure worship. I haven’t the slightest doubt that they’ll walk into the sunset together, long after their golden wedding anniversary, holding hands like sweethearts – with him still tall, and strong – her still fragile and barefoot. It almost makes you cry, doesn’t it? It was such a traumatic experience for me, I went out the next day and bought five new pairs of shoes to hide under my bed. When my Pisces friend expressed her curiosity, I just told her, “Well, winter’s coming, you know, and I may want to run out some morning at four A.M. to buy a paper or something.” I don’t think she understood, but I felt more secure.
Aries and Pisces are not generally as compatible, over a long period of time (especially if they live in Alaska, where her feet might get frost bitten) as he would be with an Air or Fire sign – or she would be with an Earth or Water sign. They’re basically quite different. But in the immortal words of the Frenchmen: “Vive la difference!” It can be quite enough to attract them in the beginning. As for building the elemental attraction into a stable relationship, there’s a good chance they can succeed if his Moon or Ascendent is in Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio, Taurus or Capricorn – or if her Moon or Ascendent is in Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini or Aquarius.
Before the Pisces girl is married, her phone rings constantly, with one male after another calling her for dates. She has an awful time deciding between Tom, Dick or Harry – because she hates to hurt Bill, John and Bob. Anyway, she really loves Jack, if she could only forget Roger. Life is full of frustrations. Like deciding which one to marry – or deciding whether or not to allow half a dozen or so of them to protect her against poverty and boredom, by paying her rent and taking her to Sun Valley to ski. Things like that. Maybe lending her their cars, an occasional Porsche, a BMW or a Saab. It’s such a rough life. The Women’s Liberation movement doesn’t move Pisces females much. The whole ERA noise just kind of floats in one Neptune ear and out the other. The Pisces woman feels it all depends on what you want to be liberated from. It certainly does. Amen, sisters! (And brothers.)
fter she’s married, her phone will continue to ring approximately every ten minutes throughout the day and night, but then it will be her neighbors, relatives and friends who need an ear to confide in, and a shoulder to weep upon. Her Aries husband will fly into a few Mars tantrums over her tendency to turn their home into a therapy clinic. She should be listening to his troubles. Not part of the time. All of the time. Except on holidays, when he’s resting, or sleeping – or knocking around with his pals.
A girl Fish is an exquisite listener. That’s how she gathered all those admirers, beginning with grade school. She’s also beautifully humble, and sympathetic, and that’s how she gets caught in her own Neptune web. A Pisces woman who feels, finally, that her individuality is being smothered by the dominant ego of the Aries man she loves, usually won’t protest loudly, or argue about it with any degree of intensity. No matter how desperate she becomes, she’s more likely to keep smiling…. but with a blank expression in her eyes. When he loses his temper with her over a trifle, she normally won’t fight back. She’ll just blink a few times, and yawn. But the yawn may be a silent scream.
If she seems to be drifting and dreaming, if her smiles are vague, and her attention wanders, the Ram should ask himself if he has been perhaps overlooking her needs in pursuing his own, which is easy for him to do, though he never does it intentionally. An Aries man is seldom aware of his occasional selfishness. It’s more thoughtlessness than selfishness anyway. He’s so intent on living-beingdoing every moment, he just doesn’t take the time to look around him. When it’s pointed out to him that he’s been rude or inconsiderate, he’s invariably surprised and embarrassed – and sorry.
It was never his intention to be cruel or unfeeling. No one can be more sentimental, kind-hearted, foolishly generous and fiercely loyal in love than Aries. But her Neptune passivity can not only encourage his unthinking selfishness and his latent chauvinism, it can blind him to any hurt he’s given her. If he realizes it, he’ll probably apologize profusely, and behave like a perfect angel (until he forgets again, and has to be reminded). So you can’t blame all their troubles on him. The Pisces woman must accept at least half the responsibility for her own unhappiness, and ask herself if she has been leaning a little heavily on the martyr routine.
There’s not much need to analyze their sexual relationship in detail, as we did with the other combinations, because, as you can see from the astrological facts stated at the beginning of this section, it’s clear that this is the perfect Romeo-Juliet, Tarzan-Jane blending, in a sexuality sense. The result, in relation to their physical intimacy, isn’t difficult to guess. She’ll not only be sensitive to his every lover’s mood, wish and desire, she’ll decode and fulfill them, almost before they’re formed. In return, he’ll gratefully give her an exciting display of his Mars intensity, and much tender (for him) affection. None of the boys who used to call her on the phone, and lend her their BMWs, could have prepared her, emotionally or otherwise, for the kind of passion that rages in the heart of a Ram, once he’s found a woman he can call completely his own.
This brings us to the subject of sexual and romantic infidelity (a subject we always eventually reach in every Aries chapter). The girl Fish is not a flirt, mind you, but what it is, you see, is that – well, men flirt with her. She’s not promiscuous, she just thinks that admiration from members of the male sex is the nicest part of being a female.
As for the Ram, he’s not a playboy type either. But he’s not going to throw rocks at a little worship from the opposite sex now and then, which he uses to polish up his ego. He thinks that’s all part of being a man. None of this should cause any real trouble between them; nevertheless, it probably will, because, although the Pisces girl is inclined to understand and trust her man – Aries is never as insistent on freedom for his partner as he is on freedom for himself. In the Ram’s opinion, his casual encounters with other women are innocent. Hers are suspect, clearly deliberate maneuvers toward an actual act of unfaithfulness. It’s not at all fair, of course. It will help if she’ll realize that his attitude isn’t based on romantic selfishness, but only on his well-hidden feelings of inadequecy. Being influenced and guided by Neptune compassion, she’ll probably comprehend his secret fear, and behave accordingly. Whether he’s right or wrong, an Aries man will never tolerate a promiscuous or an unfaithful woman – and one slip is many more times than enough for him. If she doesn’t work overtime to convince her Aries man, with all her heart, that she belongs only to him – it’s out in the cold, cold snow for little Eva.
Put two completely different kinds of people together, and do they grow to love each other less and less – or more and more? With Aries and Pisces, it’s not the differences between them that matter. It’s what they have in common – the fear of being hurt. Her vulnerability is easily discernible – his may be disguised by Mars bravery and brashness, but it’s just as real, just as painful as her own.